Losing 300 pounds in a three month period
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Since my post of December 2011, I have come to realize that someone who doesn't want to take care of themself simply can't be forced. If they don't want to help themselves, begging won't work, lecturing won't work, being logical won't work.
It has been very hard indeed for me to realize that if two people are unevenly matched, the one who cares the least .... will "win". That "win" goes firmly in the loss column, but they think they are winning for sure.
It one person is vaguely clean and the other loves a mess, you'll have a mess. If one people wants healthy foods and the other almost force feeds junk, the house will have junk. If one person wants a life and one wants video games and a locked front door, by golly that's what will happen.
This has been perhaps the hardest lesson in my life. When I made the decision to lose 300 pounds over a three month period, half a dozen people sent me a link to the movie "he's not that into you".
Wow. Everyone knew it but me.
Tonight, after a surprise litter of kittens clearly fathered by our fixed male cat..... we had a quickie dinner of two hot dogs. Balanced, not. Quick, yes. Nutritional? Hey, I got the 98% fat free, 40 calorie kind of dogs for a small fortune. But, because we ate a total of four, instead of two packs (!) they were affordable.
Sometimes, ya just can't keep someone in the style to which they wish to become accustomed.