Till death do us part is a long time… or is it?
Saturday, June 23, 2012
It’s been 32 ½ years since we made those vows. On days like today, I’m not so sure I’m willing to let him make it to 33. Okay, not really, but I’m am thoroughly disgusted with him today.
We bought a second rental house around the first of the month. I REALLY didn’t want to have to help renovate it, AND he’d not ask for my help. He talked as if everything was going well. Then about a week ago, I dropped by to take a look. OMG! He had been rushing through and doing a terrible job on the painting. He had patched holes where a bunch of pictures had been hung, but then painted over it without sanding well. Grrr….
He also wasted too much time trying to figure out how to save the woodwork (and not paint it). It really wasn’t fancy enough, and some of it just wasn’t in good enough condition.
Anyway, I decided that I will HAVE to go and at least help with the painting. So today, I head over, and a closer look just about puts me in tears (well, it DID actually). He has just been doing things haphazardly with no organization or plan.
I guess I really have to blame myself to some extent, because as I reflected on it (during my pity party), I remembered that in the 32 plus years that I’ve known him, he’s NEVER been detail oriented. In the house we live in, every major project he’s done has been left unfinished because when it gets down to the details, he tends to stop and start another project. How stupid could I be to forget such a thing? I mean all I have to do is take a look around my house, lol.
I'm feeling a little better, so I guess I’ll just pick up the pieces best I can and move on.
Member Comments About This Blog Post
I heard a joke the other day "When you take the vow "til death do us part" you don't realize that you're setting a goal!"
I can't remember, but I think it was Jeff Dunham (trying to give appropriate credit!)
2015 days ago
Ha, I'm thinking of starting a craze for a new vow 'til death or remodeling!
Hang in there kiddo, this too shall pass.
Our first month's rent went to the property management company and the plumber, but at least I got all of the final bills for the utilities off my books. Almost one year to the day from when we started renovating to getting the tenant in. and that was with mostly contractors. can't imagine doing it all sweat equity and with jobs to boot. My hat's off to you both !
2157 days ago
Comment edited on: 6/25/2012 8:27:52 PM
Well..hubby and have only been married for 7 yrs but I swear he's just like all your hubbys. Small things...urgent things..like the water heater needing to be replaced he does..bigger projects..take a really LONG time. But he's kinda cute and he loves me just the way I am...so I'm going to keep. And hope we make it to out 20...25...30...etc anniversary!
2158 days ago
Dee, we just celebrated our 37th anniversary. There have been lots of times, when I didn't think I could make it to the next anniversary. There have been many times when I weighed whether it would be better to be in jail for murder than to be married. Still, despite my husband's flaws, there is something absolutely wonderful about knowing that he is there for you in your better and worse, just as you have been there for him through his worsts. After 32 1/2 years, he knows everything about you - and still knowing that, he loves you, accepts you and is there for you -well, for me, that is worth all of the incredible irritations. He knows me and loves me anyway. He knows me and he is still there for me. (Of course, I do think he got the better end of the deal... ha ha!) It's like that old saying: " My husband married above himself. Of course, all men do."
2158 days ago
LOL Ha Ha Venting helps... Keep it up. Dee. I know where you are coming from and where you are now. It's been 47 1/2 yrs for hubby and I since we made those vows. and after selling off at least Ten rental properties in the last few yrs, we still own 16 rentals. It will always be a lesson in living life. Men always know best, so they think. We have to just take it One Day at a Time and stay positive. My heart feels for you. I'll shut up now!
2159 days ago
We just "forgot" our 23rd anniversary last weekend. (Hey...it was Father's Day, eh!?!)
But congrats on staying with it for that duration. -- Nevertheless, "there ARE days!" @$%&%
Sorry for all the extra work you have to do.
2159 days ago
Now wait a minute. Are you talking about YOUR hubby or MINE??? That cartoon is so apropos! Heck, that could be me and you sitting there! ROFLMBO!!!
2159 days ago
Aren't all men alike, ? sometime s lazy,and why can't they have a monthy deal?
My husband drives me nuts sometimes, but I do love him.
You nag they nag right back, and then theres the couch that they canhave or inthe dog house. I have been maried for 25 years.
2160 days ago
I guess all men are alike in that regard. It took my husband 6 weekends to finish tile work that a pro would have completed in one day! But through constant nagging it finally got done. Gotta love 'em. (I've been married 32 years also).
2160 days ago
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