A Spark friend inspired me to share a little bit after reading her honest and self evaluative blog. She has many emotional challenges landing in her lap all at once and her response is so uplifting.
I am grateful to be pursuing health, fitness, spiritual and emotional growth. It is allowing me to stay in the moment, focus on my own responses to situations, and prioritize my actions.
In the past month:
1. I have retired from a long and loved career. It was a very positive choice, but never the less, a big life change. I am prepared to meet the changes with gusto.
2. My father in law is making a huge transition in his life. He has sold his home in 4 weeks and moved out to a retirement home 1/2 mile from our home. It required many weekends and an enormous amount of patience and coordination for my husband and his 3 other siblings and spouses to pull this off. The majority of his care will now be my husband and my responsibility due to proximity. We are blessed to be able to care for him, even though it is stressful and requires diplomacy with the siblings.
3. My very complicated relationship with my biological family (the book I could be a movie of the week) has gotten even more "interesting" this month. Addiction is part of my family history and my story. Without going into any details, the latest chapter involves my baby brother stealing my baby sister's very expensive wedding ring two years ago. My mom had her ring remade when my parents divorced and eventually gave it to my brother in law to present to my sister upon their engagement. My baby brother has been in prison 3 times (long family story) and still lives contentiously with my enabling, mentally ill, 80 yr. old mom, at the age of 44. He is an accomplished thief, liar, manipulator, and abuser...... He has stolen from us all. (My husband and I have been good about boundaries to protect our kids when they were little) My sister, the only sibling that I have remained close to, allowed him to be a part of her family and visit, several years back, during one of his alleged sober periods. He proceeded to steal the ring from her bedroom. He denied it when she confronted him. Cut to the drama. My sister's husband went into our local pawn shop last fall to inquire about an exercise bike that he noticed for sale. While talking to the owner, he glanced down to see the wedding ring in the glass case. It is very distinctive and unmistakable. Long story short, again, he had the owner show him the records for the ring. There he found my brother's name and signature next to the exchange, as well as other expensive items stolen from my mom's home. (He has stolen her blind, taken her prescriptions, and run up credit cards over and over and over.......remember she is an enabler). My sister made a difficult choice and called the police. The detective didn't know if he could help, but, long story............ he eventually brought the case to the D.A. It has taken months, but my brother has been charged with a felony. This week I was called by the D.A. to make a statement about the history of the ring. My other brother was also called. We were asked to testify at the trial. This all sounds so crazy, I know, but my sister and I both believe that this may be the only way to stop my brother again, and possibly save his life. This morning the D.A. called and said that, faced with the facts of the case, my brother accepted a plea bargain, and will be incarcerated for 16 months in a State Prison. This has been extremely difficult, but my sister and I have stayed spiritually and emotionally bonded and clear headed. We know that we have made the right choice. Only God knows the results. I pray for my brother and my mom daily.
If you have followed this blog-a-thon, thank you for listening.
I agree with my Spark friend, life is too short to not find all the joy and happiness that is available on a daily basis. I can only control and be responsible for MY responses to life's events. I can only respond appropriately after deep prayer, meditation, and counsel.
Life is beautiful; there are miracles to behold; there is always hope, faith, and love.
Peace to you all tonight,
Leslie~ a grateful Sparker