Disappointment - the phantom menace
Sunday, June 10, 2012
"Aw, bummer. I only lost .8 pounds this week. And I thought I had an okay week."
Okey dokey, silly scale-fighting voice, let's deconstruct your disappointment. Do you even listen to yourself? What's an "okay" week? Is it a week where you ate well a couple of days, were a little uneven on most, and completely overate one evening? Yep, that's what your week was. So, um, explain why you're fighting with the numbers, please? And, part deux, you LOST almost a pound. Despite your lack of dietary perfection (and we're just not even going to waste time explaining for the 400th time that there is no such thing as dietary perfection), you lost a totally respectable amount of weight this week. So there's no reason to put on the big disappointed face. Seriously.
Not to mention that we need to have another little talk about why we're doing this, silly scale-fighting voice.
Last week I posed the question, am I doing this for weight loss / maintenance, because I want to heal my relationship with food, or can it be both? Having thought on it for a while, I've decided it can't be both at the same time. The food relationship has to get fixed first, and the rest will hopefully follow. So it's clear that I've picked a side, and that feels good. And having chosen to take away weight loss as the goal, I expect I'll find myself haunted less by the ghosts of disappointments, past and present. Because really, that's all disappointment is - it's just a figment and a phantom and an artifact of the mind's expectations. It is severely lacking in actuality, and does not hold up under scrutiny.
Before I conclude this post, I want to include a link to Effindiets, a site I find funny and motivational. Their Facebook page today led to a particular post that I had somehow missed - one that got me thinking pretty hard about what I'm doing and why. If you've ever wondered why you're sabotaging your efforts, you'll be amazed at where this takes you. http://www.effindiets.com/undi
I've got a feeling it's going to be a wonderful week.