Disappointment - the phantom menace

Sunday, June 10, 2012


"Aw, bummer. I only lost .8 pounds this week. And I thought I had an okay week."

Okey dokey, silly scale-fighting voice, let's deconstruct your disappointment. Do you even listen to yourself? What's an "okay" week? Is it a week where you ate well a couple of days, were a little uneven on most, and completely overate one evening? Yep, that's what your week was. So, um, explain why you're fighting with the numbers, please? And, part deux, you LOST almost a pound. Despite your lack of dietary perfection (and we're just not even going to waste time explaining for the 400th time that there is no such thing as dietary perfection), you lost a totally respectable amount of weight this week. So there's no reason to put on the big disappointed face. Seriously.

Not to mention that we need to have another little talk about why we're doing this, silly scale-fighting voice.

Last week I posed the question, am I doing this for weight loss / maintenance, because I want to heal my relationship with food, or can it be both? Having thought on it for a while, I've decided it can't be both at the same time. The food relationship has to get fixed first, and the rest will hopefully follow. So it's clear that I've picked a side, and that feels good. And having chosen to take away weight loss as the goal, I expect I'll find myself haunted less by the ghosts of disappointments, past and present. Because really, that's all disappointment is - it's just a figment and a phantom and an artifact of the mind's expectations. It is severely lacking in actuality, and does not hold up under scrutiny.

Before I conclude this post, I want to include a link to Effindiets, a site I find funny and motivational. Their Facebook page today led to a particular post that I had somehow missed - one that got me thinking pretty hard about what I'm doing and why. If you've ever wondered why you're sabotaging your efforts, you'll be amazed at where this takes you.

I've got a feeling it's going to be a wonderful week.
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    Exactly how I feel most of the time! Thanks for this encouragement! emoticon
    2627 days ago
    When you put it like that, it does help me rethink things. I tend to give that scale more power than it deserves and it never ends well. You have made some excellent points that will most certainly help me deal with that misguided notion. Thanks also for the website recommendation. Sounds like it might be helpful as well.
    2814 days ago
    Good blog = thank you. Hope things have been going well since you posted it.
    2814 days ago
    The ones that always got my attention when I was a WW receptionist were the ones who would come to the scale all nervous.

    "It's not going to be good. I had a bad week."
    Really? What happened?
    "My mother and sister came into town and we went out to dinner four nights and even went to the club."
    What'd you do at the club?
    "We had a few drinks and danced a lot."
    Where'd you go to dinner?
    "We went to the (fill in some of the better restaurants in town)."
    Sounds like a good week to me. All my bad weeks should be that bad. BY the way, you're down 0.6 this week.

    Please stop judging your week by that stupid number on the scale.
    2814 days ago
    Thanks for the inspiration!!
    2814 days ago
    very interesting to read...i feel ya! you are very articulate!
    2828 days ago
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    I completely agree with you! I constantly get obsessed with the number of the scale. We have to make healing our relationship with food the priority and the rest will follow. Will check out that website!
    2831 days ago
    Great inspirational blog! Thanks!
    2836 days ago
    Well said and thanks so much for the link!
    2839 days ago
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