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Learning to Just "Be"

Sunday, May 27, 2012

I will retire in two weeks. I've been working a paid job since I was 16. That, of course, does not count the babysitting jobs since I was 11 and the paper route when I was 14.

I'm a worker among workers. I take my career very seriously and have enjoyed the benefits of doing what I love for decades. I am programmed to keep a schedule, even on weekends. I write lists for lists and enjoy the process of checking things off when completed. If I complete a task not on my list, I will add it to the list just so I can cross it off.

I am retiring to begin the third trimester of my life with no definite plans, no schedules, no expectations, and no required duties. Of course, having a healthy marriage, being a mom and grandma, keeping friendships, caring for a home, caring for my aging father-in-law and being a responsible citizen will have requirements and expectations, but I will be "the boss".

This weekend I intentionally did not bring home school work. I am forcing myself to "just be". I have things that I will get done such as housework, shopping, exercise, animals and yard work, and cooking, but I am not allowing myself to write lists or keep a schedule. Just "being" is hard work!

I think the paradigm shift from schedules and obligations to free choices and relaxation will be my biggest challenge. My husband and I are already psychologically preparing for the changes. In our 42 years, we have experienced many such changes and adjustments. We now know to expect a period of adjustment.

So................here's to learning to be a "human BEing" and not a "human DOing". There is great value in being a person of action and solutions rather than a victim with excuses. But there is also value in knowing when to slow down enough to enjoy the beauty of the world as it unfolds.

Peace my Spark friends. Thank you, again, for listening to my thoughts.

Leslie


Now here's an adorable reason to "BE".
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  • BRITTERS23
    There is no doubt in my mind that you will find happiness in retirement! Enjoy the BEing! emoticon
    2209 days ago
  • MOLO14
    I love reading the things you write. They are always tinged with realistic optimism and positivity. (is that not a word? Why does my spellcheck disapprove?)
    Leslie, I think you are on a wonderful path and it's inspiring to see how much you enjoy and appreciate your life. Best of luck in your final two weeks of work!
    2210 days ago
  • TRAVELGRRL
    It is good you are preparing ahead for the shift in focus.

    I think you will find it to be a very pleasant change!
    2211 days ago
  • SHERRY666
    GREAT BLOG LESLIE....... IT WILL BE DIFFERENT FOR YOU.... BUT ONCE I HAD TO RETIRE I DROVE MYSELF NUTS AT THE BEGINING.... AND NOW REALIZE THERE IS SO MUCH MORE OUT HERE..... AND JUST BEING KEEPS ME BUSY.... MY LISTS ARE LONGER NOW THAT I DON'T WORK..... LOL........ AND I LOVE IT...... I'M THE SAME WAY WITH A LIST.... AND WILL ADD IT IF IT'S NOT ON THE LIST.....WHAT A LITTLE CUTTIE YOUR GRANDDAUGHER.... AND YOU DO NOT LOOK THE AGE YOU TOLD US YOU ARE...... FANTASTIC.....
    2213 days ago
  • LESSOFPMCD
    Wow - retirement! You seem much too young to be even thinking of this but here you are.

    I'm sure you will find things that will end up taking up the hours in your day - things to keep your interest - new things - new experiences. I have heard from other retirees (yes your new designation in life) that if they had known how great it was they would have done it years earlier. Some tell me they don't know how they ever found the time to work - their days are so busy.

    Congratulations! You have worked hard and you deserve this. Enjoy it! Thrive in it! I wish I could join you in retirement!





    2214 days ago
  • IMAQUALITARIAN
    Wow! I am so excited for you, Boss! Enjoy that GORGEOUS baby and continue to make precious memories with your family.
    2214 days ago
  • BETHGILLIGAN
    I am such a list maker; yes, lists for lists. I am still making lists in retirement but instead of things I have to get done, they are lists of things I want to do!! Very different!!! I found if I didn't have a list to focus on the entire day would go by and I would have done nothing!!! The good news is I can take time to BE any time I want and I do just that!! I spent so many years (as we all did) doing what I needed to do for others and fulfilling obligations, meeting deadlines, accomodating others that I'm sure my list always has "me" time (although I don't always honor the exercise "me" time; I never miss reading "me" time!!)
    2214 days ago
  • AWESOMECAROL55
    Leslie... I so loved your blog and WOW do I identify. I too, as you probably already know, am a human DOing and not a human BEing! I believe this is something I truly need to work on. We need to give ourselves a break and not think we need to do EVERYTHING. Enjoy your retirement....make it a healthy, happy, new beginning!! Thanks for sharing!!

    Hugs...Carol
    R>PS..What a sweet little one!!
    2215 days ago
  • KANOE10
    You are right to expect transition when you retire. I know you will find happiness and develop other areas of your life. It is hard to just be. This weekend I made the same decision as you..not to go into work. I should go back to school and continue the move. However, I decided to stay at home and work on flowers and cats and be with my family.

    I am excited for you as you make this wonderful transition in your life. Relaxation and appreciating all of the beauty in the world is so important.
    Hope you enjoy your last weeks.
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    2215 days ago
  • LITTLEBO
    Gotta smile because everyone I know who has "retired", is busier than they have ever been....but in a good way....busy doing things they really WANT to do.....One friend in particualar I almost never see now...I saw her more before retirement.....It'll be FUN!
    2215 days ago
  • AJDOVER1
    Awesome! "If I complete a task not on my list, I will add it to the list just so I can cross it off. " I do that, too!

    I think you'll be a great boss of the third trimester of your life.

    Hugs,
    Aurlie
    2215 days ago
  • NEWKAREN43
    It appears that you have a wonderful reason or two (three?) to BE and not DO so much! I'm so happy for you as you enter this trimester of your life! Congrats on your retirement, and taking the time to assess what is and isn't going to come naturally to you in this time! Enjoy every minute of that sweet baby!
    2215 days ago
  • GOLFGMA
    I'm sure you will enjoy just "being" but don't be surprised if you start lists again. The lists would probably include different things from your work lists, but, I have found my retirement has more lists or calendar dates than my working years. When working I knew where I would go each day, however, I now have to keep a calendar to know where I am supposed to be on any given day. I will say that the past two years have been loads of fun and I sincerely hope that you enjoy your retirement as I have. emoticon
    2215 days ago
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