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The MIL Problem

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Ever since my mil saw the house we like, she has been talking to my husband about repairs she wants to do on it. Rewind 8 yrs ago when my husband and I first started dating. She made our lives hell. Gave the baby brother a newish car. Gave Scott studded tires for his bike for the winter. I was so angry we didn't speak for 3-4 yrs. We are on good terms now and she always comes to races. Well now that this house has come up and she has all these ideas about what she wants to do with it. She isn't telling me either, all Scott. Scott is so excited about too. She wants to redo the stairs to the basement. Put in a bathroom in the upstairs. Build a closet upstairs, WTF? Wow yes that is awesome u have money to give. But we have worked VERY hard without your help and now u wanna come in and take over when we can finally get our own house, WHAT??? Scott is upset with me, saying she is trying to make up for old times and let her do it. She has withheld money from him for 7 yrs that she gave the baby brother and didn't give Scott. Now she is ready to give it and its on her terms. This is our house UGHHHH! Scott told me he is sick of mediating between his mom and everyone else hence his dad. Now between his mom and me. She is causing the drama. She is his mother. I am his wife, she has NO grounds. She needs to back up NOW! If Scott can't tell her, then I will. Get your own hobby house if u need a project. Ok i am done! lol

In other news my poor little dog was stung by a bee last night. I was up with her til 1 am. Then all my other sleep sucked cuz she was pacing. Poor baby girl. Her face is finally skinny Bella face again. This is the 2nd time she has been stung and this time was far worse.
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    Yeah, we've figured out that taking $, no matter what, always comes back to bite us...even if at the time it seems genuine. I'd politely decline her assistance. You guys will be so much more proud of it when you've done it by yourselves. Besides, if you let her help, she will FOREVER hold it over your head: they couldn't have done it without had only one bathroom until I stepped looks so much nicer because of me....blah, blah, blah.
    2157 days ago
    What is her motivation for this? That is what would concern me. Is she fixing the house up for you two or herself? The house will be yours and Scott's so I think you need to come up with your own plans for it. If her plans are something you like and they fit your plans and there are no strings attached then I might think about taking the money as it looks like Scott is being screwed and it's all going to his brother.

    Your poor baby. I hate to be stung. I can imagine your poor dog. I have a sick pet too.
    2158 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/24/2012 12:18:28 PM
    ERR...I typed out a long comment and it erased...

    Bottom line, let Scott know how you're feeling. He needs to support you and y'all need to make the decisions together (not with her).

    I have a MIL from hell as well and it's caused a lot of marital stress.

    Go with your gut...I doubt she's just trying to be nice know better than we do what her motives are.
    2158 days ago
    Maybe she trying to make up for lost times and the way she has treated your husband and you. You should try to find out what her motive is and see if it is sincere.
    I hope your dog is ok poor baby girl :(.
    2158 days ago
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