Horrible mistake made today..... feeling awful about it.

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Oh man.... am I feeling horrible right now. Maybe it is because I know the feeling. The feeling of someone asking you when you are due but you are not pregnant. Not the best feeling in the world and I did this to someone.

I was at boot camp and was amazed to see two woman in there working out and they both looked like they were expecting. The one woman with me was very slender... legs and arms very tone and thin but she had a little pooch belly so I "assumed" that she was expecting. I never have done this before because you just never know but today I felt compelled to ask. So I told her that she was doing awesome in class and then threw in the "when are you expecting" line.

I felt just awful when she said that she wasn't. She then went onto saying that she is having a hard time losing her belly fat. I immediately apologized but just could not get over what I just did to her. That poor woman having someone basically telling her that she looks pregnant. After another break I started talking to her again because I didn't want her to think that I was rude. I told her again how sorry I was and that I know the feeling and can't believe that I would assume something like that. I then went onto telling her that I am also having a hard time losing the belly fat after having my three children. And that it doesn't feel good to have people think you are pregnant because people have asked me before as well.

After chatting a little more I found out that she had her child via c-section also and we both agreed that we think our belly fat is so bad due to the c-sections. I felt a little better talking with her but I still feel awful. I hope this didn't ruin her day. She did look awesome and was working so hard in class.

I just know that I will never make that mistake again. It was humiliating to me but that poor woman.... I just feel so bad.

On a brighter note..... I had a wonderful weekend and was able to get over being uncomfortable at my cousins wedding. I wore a dress that showed a little more on top than I would like to show. I still feel very uncomfortable about my body no matter how clothes fall on me. I felt like my arms were huge... legs were huge... stomach stuck out too much... you get the picture. But I got over it and had fun dancing the night away. And by the evening, I really didn't care. I danced the way I dance at home behind closed shades and had a blast doing it. I received many compliments on my "moves" and even had my Grandma telling me that I looked great on the dance floor.

Here is a picture of me, my sister, and cousin (I'm in the middle, sister on the left, and cousin on the right) at the wedding. We all had similar dresses so people were calling us the triplets.

And my hubby and I just celebrated our 13 year wedding anniversary. It seems like just yesterday we were up on the alter saying our vows. Now 13 years later we are still incredibly in love with each other and have 3 children to full fill our life. He is truly a blessing to me... my rock, my lover for life, my soul mate, and best friend. Can't wait to celebrate many more years with him.

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    Oh no!!!! I have almost done that but stopped. When I started at this job, one of my coworkers could still pass for being 8 months along. Good thing I did not say anything.

    Oh well at least you guys talked afterwards.
    3169 days ago
    You handled your "goof" just perfectly! If she were wounded by your question, she likely would not have continued to chat with you. look gorgeous in your dress! As do your sister and cousin :)
    3170 days ago
  • GLMOM2
    Oops! emoticon

    Someday you both can laugh about it while you are sweating it up at the gym & burn more calories that way. We all have had those "insert foot into mouth" moments. emoticon

    BTW -
    You look beautiful in your dress. emoticon
    3170 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8692920
    I agree with the c-section belly fat problem. I have the pooch that will never go away.
    3170 days ago
  • HTHOMAS_30
    Been there done that! But I think you did amazing job of owning up to the mistake. Keep up the good work.
    3170 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4429274
    Sounds like an awkward situation all around, but good on you for following through and talking with her again to explain. It would have been much easier to just ignore her and not look back, but you "manned up" and apologized.

    3170 days ago
    Great pictures! You look fantastic!!!
    BTW - I did the same mistake once.... still remember the feeling...
    Congrat on your 13 years together.... that is just the beginning!!! emoticon
    3170 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/23/2012 4:56:35 PM
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