I need to learn to self talk as if I was talking to a friend.

Monday, May 21, 2012

On Saturday I set out for my first solo 17 mile run. (I am training for a full marathon) The first 8 miles were great; I stopped to stretch my right calf since it was getting a little cranky. Then I headed out to finish the last 9. At my 12.5 I came to a sudden halt. My right calf muscle tighten up so bad it took all my power not to scream. I started to rub it and stretch and it would not give. So I decided it would be best for me to call my DH, as I do not want to injury myself. So DH picked me up and took me home where I immediately put my leg into an ice bath. All day long it ached and I had a hard time walking on it. Lots of ibuprofen was taken along with compression and more ice. Later that evening and told myself that I had failed. I only ran 12.5 of the scheduled 17 miles. And I was feeling really bummed that I had failed.
Then yesterday I met up with some awesome running buddies to cheer on our other running buddies that were running the Portland Rock-n-Roll Half Marathon. Rose asked me how my 17 miler went… I said I ONLY did 12.5, because I.. She stopped me and said “Did you just hear yourself? ONLY 12.5, 12.5 is great. You stopped because your body needed you to not because you chose to quit.” I stopped and thought about it and that is exactly what I would have said to any of my friends.
I need to learn to talk to myself as I would a friend. I would NEVER tell anyone the failed because the stopped. I need to remember this conversation.
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  • CMERUN29
    Absolutely right. We need to talk to ourselves as we do our friends. I know how supportive you are when I need to take time off to recover. Be kind to yourself and be proud of all you have (and will) accomplish.
    2829 days ago
    Good lesson learned! I need to practice that more myself.
    2831 days ago
    12.5 is amazing, Shelly! I hope to be there one day. I struggle with negative self-talk as well. I think I am getting a bit better, but it is a constant struggle. Keep up the great work!
    2832 days ago
    I'm glad you stopped. You've been having some trouble with your hammie too so it's best not to push. You've done so well. Don't give up. I know you'll do it.
    2832 days ago
  • BERRY4
    "Only 12.5" is certainly farther than I can/could ever run. Give yourself a LOT of credit for the distance, the effort, and for stopping when you needed to.

    Way to use common sense! -- NOW reward yourself (ie. pat yourself on the back)for all that you are accomplishing EVERY time you head out the door to run!

    That self talk issue is a BIG struggle. Glad you are able to see/hear the difference between friends & self.
    2832 days ago
    She's absolutely right! If we talked to our friends the way we talk to ourselves we'd have no friends left!

    You are doing great! You're running SMART which is something a lot of people don't do. That's a win as far as I'm concerned!
    2832 days ago
    Isn't it ironic that we say things to ourselves that we would never say to a friend?
    We are definitely hard on ourselves! 12.5 miles is awesome!! You will get your longer training runs in! You were smart to stop with that kind of pain and not push it!

    2832 days ago
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