Monday, May 14, 2012

I know I've been MIA for the past week. It was a heartbreaking past few days.
330am on thursday we were woken up by my husbands sister freaking out saying we needed to go to the hospital. Then about 2 min later his mom called and said his dad was in an ambulance on his way to the hospital and she didnt think he was alive. Well it wasn't very much longer till we were all at the ER in one of those private rooms having our worst fears confirmed. He was gone.
Its been a crazy week since thing. Tons of friends and family surrounding everyone, food EVERYWHERE. Its so wonderful to have so many people who love and care about you and that they are there for you. After a few days though it gets to be a bit much, you just want some alone time. I'm back at work this week, and I'm just beat. Our sleeping has been all out of wack. Going to bed way late getting up mid morning because we are just to exhausted, just to start it all over again.
The next month or so is going to be tough. My poor husband has had to become the man of the family, and make big decisions and take care of everyone. Which is tough on us only being married a year. I'm so run down, and of course all the weight i've worked hard to lose came right back willingly. I know getting back into an exercise routine like i had will be really good for me to deal with all this stress, but its a matter of getting out of my head and going. Telling myself to make time because this will be good for me.
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    Hey, you want a workout buddy, you just say the word! And don't be hard on yourself. Now isn't the time for that. Though you might just find that getting to the gym is exactly the "you time" that you really needed.
    2492 days ago
  • MTOLL81
    I am so sorry to read this! My heart goes out to you and your husband. It is so hard to experience such a huge loss especially when you are newly married. When I joined spark in 2007 I had a ton of success, had lost 24 pounds in the course of 3 months and then my dad (who was only 50 and seemingly healthy) passed away without warning. Needless to say, after losing a ton of weight from not eating immediately after, I gained it all back due to stress and grief. Take your time and focus on getting through each day. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Come back when you are ready, don't rush it!
    2492 days ago
    I am so, SO sorry to hear about your loss! Do whatever you need right now to be supportive to each other. Comfort is key. A lifestyle change is difficult enough without something like this. Come back to this when you are good and ready.

    So sorry again. What a heartbreak. Take care.
    2492 days ago
  • BAKER1009
    Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this! Was his father ill or was this a complete surprise?

    Regardless, a loss is a loss, and it's tough. I'm praying that you both find the strength to keep on moving forward. Hang in there, my thoughts are most certainly with you both!!

    Do remember to take care of yourself, because you are worth it. However, do not beat yourself up over what has happened in the last week. You did exactly what you needed to do, to be there for your husband and his family. I do agree with you, the exercise can help you with the stress of everything. Just start pushing for at least 10 mins a day and work your way up.

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    2500 days ago
  • 307MOMMA
    I am sorry for your loss, it's never easy at all and yet somehow we find our way through it. Just remember not to beat yourself up right now while you're coping w/ this loss. God bless you and your family.
    2500 days ago
    I am sorry about your and your husband's loss. Maybe make it a workout date with your hubby, so you both can get away from it all for a bit? It will get better, I promise!

    Marina Desiree
    2500 days ago
    First of all, let me say how truly sorry I am for your loss. I really do know exactly what you're going through. I joined SP on Jan 3, 2011, and was doing famously well. I had gone from 178 to 155 by June 2011. Then . . . my mom called to let me know that my dad had gone to the ER during the night and was in the hospital. The next day my sister called to say it was cancer and he only had a couple of days. My whole family was a wreck. My dad lived for three weeks, and during that time, and the following week of funeral services (he had 3) were lived in a fog of excruciating pain. The last thing I was concerned about was myself and staying on track with my nutrition and exercise. By the 16 of July I had gotten back to 165. It 's been hard for me to get back to the previous level of commitment, but I'm trying.
    I guess I said all that to say you're not alone. I have been exactly where you are, and my prayers and sympathy are with you and your loved ones. Please remember to be kind to yourself during the whirlwind of emotions and activity that come with the death of a loved one. God bless you.
    2500 days ago
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