Triggers in the house
Sunday, May 06, 2012
There is a "Hot" topic on the message boards about keeping triggers in the house and I noticed that I get a little annoyed by opinions like "it´s your responsibility not to eat them, it is your boyfriends right to eat them if he wants"
Of course I can´t restrict other people to eat or drink just because I have a problem with it. But as I have experienced that it is easier for me to stay away if they are not in reach or sight, I am trying to create a surrounding that helps me. And I am asking my friends to help me too by not bringing cookies to my house, not giving me chocolate boxes etc.
And I would not dream of giving a box of chocolate to somebody who has told me that he or she was a binge eater who was trying to avoid sugar – just as I would not dream about giving a bottle of whisky to a sober alcoholic.
So why do I get annoyed about posts that shows that the writer has no clue about compulsive eating and probably thinks it is a question about "character"?
Probably because deep down I agree... I think that my inability to stay with healthy eating all the time is due to me being weak and "bad".
My experience has taught me that there is a lot I can do to help myself _ I can eat healthy and balanced meals, that helps me to handle cravings, I can avoid shopping when I am too hungry, I can shop with a list that allows no "impulses" I can keep triggers out of the house.
ALl changes towards healthy habits comes easier if I set it up right. I have found that I stick to exercising regularly if I do it in the mornings - postponing it to the afternoon is not a good idea because I am often too tired. I have also found that IF I need to exercise in the afternoon it is easier if I make do it together with somebody, I can´t let a friend down. I have found it easier to do it if I have the right equipment and make it easy to get going... to arrange everything to make it as simple for myself as possible to get going is sane, wise and in fact kind of clever... so why don´t I respect my weakness for eating as much. I do arrange a lot to avoid overeating or binges and it works well... but I still feel embarrassed about it I obviously still have an idea (on a subconscious level) that I should be "strong" and able to handle food without any precautions.
When I truly get rid of that idea I will not be provoked by any posts that says that it is all a question about will power... I´m not there yet but on my way!