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Saturday, April 28, 2012

My best friend is an alcoholic. He's just recently gotten out of a court-mandated 6 month stint in an inpatient rehab, and he's now got 6 months and two weeks of sobriety. We've been talking a lot about addiction, his behaviors, and his recovery and he's always startled by how well I understand him. I should. Whether he's standing at line in the package store, or I'm standing in front of the open refrigerator door, we're both thinking the same thing:

What the hell am I doing? I don't want this. It's horrible for me. I vowed this morning that I would do the right thing, and here it is, 8 AM and I'm already blowing it. I'm going to hate myself for this. I ALREADY hate myself for this....But...This will be it. I'll be done after this. Tomorrow. I'll get this together tomorrow. Screw it. It doesn't matter. I want it. I want it RIGHT NOW. What's the difference, anyway?

And, just like that, he's in the bag, and I've polished off a super size meal and an entire box of oreos.

But last week, he said something to me that flipped the switch. I was still off the rails. Pretending to make changes. Attending meetings that I was too arrogant to listen to. "I KNOW all of this already. I KNOW what it takes to lose weight. I'm not like these people." He had some time on me and I asked him, "How are you doing this? How did you get this going and how do you stay on the path?" and he said:

I just do the next right thing.

It's so simple. I mean, it's all any of us have to do to succeed in any situation. Just do the next right thing. So I started. Right then, as I was on the phone with him, my hand was in a bag of Hershey Kisses. I was going through a bag, sometimes 2, a week. The right thing was to put the Kisses back on the shelf. So I did.

I've been doing the next right thing for a week, and I'm down 6 pounds. I feel fantastic.

He said to me today, "When my head hits the pillow at night now, I have no regrets. I feel good about the way I met each challenge."

So do I.

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    That is beautiful! You are so right. It doesn't matter what the addiction is, you just have to do the next right thing.

    I hope you look as peaceful hitting your head as your background picture! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2072 days ago
    Thats a fantastic blog Lori....he sounds like he was a very wise man. It's amazing the clarity you can have when your mind is clear...and your right, an addition is an addiction and you both went thru similar emotions, even though yours was food and his was alcohol. I'm so sorry for your loss emoticon emoticon
    2072 days ago
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    Great job!

    Munching s hard for me, too. I just try and not buy things that could be unhealthy munchies. So only things like fruits, vegs and nuts...and maybe a bag of chocolate chips (but I only allow myself 1 choc chip with 1 almond and only 30g of almonds a day. A digital kitchen can be really helpful.

    Congrats on the 6 pounds down!!!
    2215 days ago
    I have goosebumps! Thanks so much for sharing!!!!
    2215 days ago
    Very good blog, indeed. I see myself in what you said. I think with the start of the new BLC challenge I am seeing things differently. Already, after three days, I don't have any real desire for the things that have done me in at times. Thanks for the added reinforcement.

    Great job with the 6 lb. loss!!! emoticon emoticon
    2215 days ago
    Congrats on being 6 pounds down. Very good blog.
    2215 days ago
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