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Consider (again): forget the scale to stop bingeing

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Just to say: if you have to make a choice between weighing yourself and being binge free, take being binge free. Many bingers use the scale as a way to verify that they've been "good," or "bad." It also can set up bargaining. If I binge on this, but cut on that, and I don't gain, then I can do it again. FEw people actually realize they think this, but it's the mindset that often goes with calorie counting and weighing. It also often spurs thoughts of punishment and disappointment in yourself. To be binge free, it is usually very important to be on good terms with yourself. If you can't weigh and stay on good terms with yourself, choose not to weigh!

Weighing is usually part of "being on a diet," not on living for the long term. If the only reason we eat well is because we are afraid of the scale, we have a problem. Remember that though research shows those who maintain losses weigh every day, they represent only 3-5% of those who actually lose. We have to ask why so many don't stick with things? Discouragement with the scale rather than concentrating on life habits is a major reason, I believe.

Most people in the world who maintain normal weight do not even know how much they weigh or how many calories food has! However, they usually live in cultures that don't believe in huge portions, eating fast, and or snacking between meals. And nobody sits around scarfing food alone! They believe that hunger is not a problem but the best sauce! And being just full, rather than overfull, is the way to honor the food and your body.

Of course, if you have a health problem, and you are supposed to lose weight, maybe you need the scale. But if you have a health problem, and are not eating in accordance with getting more healthy, you aren't likely to lose weight, anyway. You need to start thinking of eating well as a gift to yourself, and believe me, eating well doesn't mean not enjoying your food! When you eat discrete meals with good food, with a variety of textures and flavors, and get decently hungry for your meals, you will enjoy your food even more.
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    I'm new to this blog and want to say that I appreciate all comments
    that were posted.
    My own experience with scale is not so good.
    I allow the number on the scale determine my mood for the day.
    I'm presently logging everything I eat and drink which is a big help to
    controlling my daily consumption.
    I would like to know what the "S"diet is that 'OOLALA53 mentioned in one of
    your postings.
    I have problems with bingeing and I'm looking forward to being part of this community.
    Have A Great Weekend Everyone!!
    Diana emoticon
    2148 days ago
  • DEEO12
    Excellent post. So true! emoticon
    2153 days ago
    I totally agree with you....

    But I'm definitely not there yet, even though I love eating healthy.... daily weigh-ins are the only thing that keep me from bingeing. I've managed to maintain my weight for long periods due daily weigh-ins. For me, if the scale shows a higher number, I don't get frustrated and give up. Even though I know many chronic yo-yo dieters do, it just makes me even more determined to get back down to my maintenance weight. I see it as a constant challenge to stay on track. I like having that competition with myself on a daily basis. Again, certainly not for everyone. But I accepted long ago that I would never be "normal." My body was morbidly obese throughout my life, so it is programmed to be that way through the physiological changes it endured growing up obese. I know it will be a lifelong struggle to maintain a healthy normal weight. Of course, I'm not the average person who has a small amount of weight to lose, or who grew up as a normal weight, so my circumstances are different.

    2172 days ago
    My relation to the scale is complicated... if I don´t use it at all I tend to deny that I am going in the wrong direction... and if I use it I obsess and let it rule my mood.

    I have tried using other measures like measuring - too flexible. I have tried to live without it but after a long run of successful days I "have to" check what has happened on the scale – and if the numbers are good I obsess for a while.

    To me the iportant part has been to realise that the scale is one tricky tool and how to handle is not only different for individuals, is it also different depending on where in the process you are.

    If weighing myself is two-edged, I find weighing my food mostly helpful. After doing it for a very long time I guess rather well, chicking now and then shows me that my estimations are right.
    But as I am a coe that have no trust in myself, the food scale helps me to know that I have not "cheated" and that might be helful. Then again, with time I need to learn to trust my own judgement (with the help of a Higher Power) and rely upon my estimation without having to check...

    And yes, we do need to bring the subject of weighing to discussion, it eems as there is a "common" belief that it is always necessary and good... my experience is different.
    2176 days ago
    This is a wonderful post. Thanks. I don't always use the scale this way, but I do sometimes - and it's a good reminder.
    2180 days ago
    I need to adopt this philosophy for sure....great blog Oolala.... I was binge free for like 43 days, with my S days not so binge free..but a work in progress!!
    2181 days ago
    I completely agree! A three second experience with the scale is what started my downfall last time. I ended up gaining all the weight back and then some.

    This time around I am focusing on the many other ways to measure success...the scale is really only a tiny part of the equation. I recently had three weeks where the scale moved a total of 1 pound despite my clothes becoming looser. There are far to many variables to make weighing in daily, for me, useful and motivating. Muscle weighs more than fat, you could be retaining water, even the barimetric pressure can affect your weight are just a few reasons your wight can fluctuate. I do weigh in weekly; but, I think it is more to prove to myself it doesn't define me and won't stop my progress.

    I also think the scale is why so many people quit so soon. They think they should have immediate results, despite taking years to put on the weight, and then get annoyed with the scale and quit.

    Thanks for reminding us to look else where for our successes!
    2183 days ago
    Thoughtful post. Thank you!!!
    2183 days ago
  • OOLALA53
    Yes, 75% of the 3% who actually lose weight and keep it off are motivated by the scale. But what about the rest of the dropouts? There's got to be another way. Most of the world lives it. emoticon
    2183 days ago
    I must say that if I don't weigh myself in the morning I tend to eat more! It helps me to stay on track and be truthful about what I have been doing when I face that scale each day.
    2183 days ago
    As an experiment with my kiddo, trying to see how unreliable scales really are...One Saturday I weighed myself about 10 times in one day. My weight fluctuated up and down all day, sometimes 3 or 4 pounds and I hadn't done anything to warrant these fluctuations......after that.....I don't put much faith into what the scales says...I go by how I feel.
    2184 days ago
    I got up this morning, looked at the scale in the bathroom, thought about stepping on it, but decided that wasn't how I wanted to start my day today. I already had a bad night and wasn't feeling great. I didn't need a number to make it worse because for me that number is rarely good enough. Great post!
    2184 days ago
    Oolala-great blog this was a good post. You know a few months ago my BED therapist suggested i do that not to know my weight when i weighed so i actually have one of my closest friend come in with me to my weigh in she keeps my weight chart and this is what she says to me: Did great and are on target to obtain your goals, you maintained or need a little work. Hearing that vs. seeing a number makes a big difference in my attitude. Case in point last week the weight recorder actually said gain .8 oz (big deal right -to me it was) I was upset because i couldn't understand why i had a .8 oz gain... i got really emotional about but i also know it was my sis's anniversary but that could have easily gotten ugly my best friend just took me aside and reminded me what i have accomplished where i am at and gave me a hug. How often do you get that when you get on a scale at home by yourself someone pulling you to the side and talking reason with you and giving you that lift you need no it's usually just you and the scale and then you head for pantry or fridge many of times i remembered weighin myself several times a week and it fluncuating so much that the scale become my enemy and a reason to binge last year because it feeds to the binge cycle spiral. THat was my biggest fear when we started adding in the lose weight part of my treatment.. Not knowing an actual number is helpful.

    I know my accomplishments by my BF days, my clothes are alot loser, my exercise is consistent and i'm toning so inches are gone and have had to get new clothes that always makes us feel good and pretty. I remind myself of my weight loss pledge:

    I am an intellingent person and I will control my emotions and not let my emotions control me. Everytime i am tempted to use food to satisfy my frustrated desire build up my injured ego or dull my senses I will remember even though i overeat in private my excess poundage is there for all the world to see. I will take off pounds sensibly. It's funny can't tell you how many times i used to say that before and say boy to a dull my senses and eat in private where no one can see me. My car could rat me out in an instant. That is where I would eat or late at night when not a creature was stirring not even that mouse just me hitting the pantry. I feel stronger now but every so often the slipper slope and fear hit and that is when i really get myself aware to keep from going there.
    2184 days ago
    Excellent blog Oolala! With my water retention issues, the scale is no fun most of the time.... emoticon
    2184 days ago
    Yep, thats me! Weigh myself to see what that scale says....looking for it to give me permission and a few pounds of wiggle room near my goal is all i need. Its a cycle and Im proud to say i have not weighed since Saturday. I ended up bingeing on Sunday and this week began a new workout/food plan. I hope to be able to avoid the scale til Sunday May13 (mothers day)....Oh my, didnt even notice i had done that with my thought process. I have a dinner planned at a family favorite restaurant with family style ordering on Mothers day, i guess in my way i was/am planning a binge. Glad i see that now! Time to adjust and fix that!!
    2184 days ago
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