What I was gonna do... and the lady in the bathroom.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

I've been frustrated with the scale. I got down to 131, then bounced back up and around and down again. Then I got down to 130.8, and now I'm back up to around 132. What the????

Well, then I read the calorie differential report on SP. Turns out, I've been more at the top of my calorie range every day for the last bit, and going over two days. The big picture is that my calories in the past few weeks were higher than they've been since I started SP. So... my fault, I'll work on it, and thank goodness for tracking, or I'd probably be totally confused and ticked right now.

So, since I can't whine about the scale, I thought I'd write about something else. The "Lady in the Bathroom." Yesterday, I went to the restroom, and while in the stall, I heard huffing and puffing from another stall. I actually got worried. "Is someone having a heart attack? An asthma attack? A panic attack?" My brain was going into high gear, while I considered asking these questions to the invisible person. I decided that bathrooms are good places for privacy, so I didn't say anything, and got out of my stall to wash my hands.

Then she emerged from hers. She was very overweight, and seemed to be having difficulty walking, and was clearly having trouble breathing. She didn't seem to be distressed - this may be her normal level of exertion for breathing - I don't know.

I'm not judging, and I'm not assessing this woman's worth at all. In terms of all that surrounds her, I have no idea where she is, what she is doing, and how her life is working for her. What I did do was think about how glad I am that I've found SP.

My muscles are tight and springy. Most days, I'm a little sore, and I love that. I can bounce up the stairs now, enjoying the feeling of my thighs working, and not getting even slightly out of breath. I'm more active and happy, and I have wonderful friends supporting me as I get even closer to my ideal of health for me. Yesterday? When I was warming up for my strength training? My arm muscles looked good. You heard me - I COULD SEE MUSCLES IN MY ARMS! Sort of biggish ones, I felt pumped.

All this has come from my time with SP. I've totally turned around the way I look at fitness. I used to think about it as a "have to" and now it is actually something that I look forward to. My body works better than before, and I'm really happy.

So, when I saw the "lady in the bathroom" I wanted to spread the spark. But the spark doesn't work that way. Telling her that her wheezing could be fixed is probably something she knows. Heck, she may even be working on fixing it now. I just feel so much better in my skin now, and I so wish that for everyone. I've been the "lady in the bathroom" and the "lady on the stairs" in the past, and I am so motivated to keep moving in the direction I'm moving in.

Even if the scale doesn't make me do a happy dance every day.
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    Doesn't it feel great? I love being happy and healthy and feeling so energized. So glad you found SparkPeople and that it's worked so well for you. Keep it up! Happy is awesome!! emoticon
    2533 days ago
    Isn't it weird how those kinds of things just pop into our lives that make us appreciate everything we have (or don't have :D)? I've been the same way with the scale, except I haven't been tracking my food due to extreme craziness at work and just the day-to-day around the house. It's quite frustrating, which is why I'm so amazed and jealous that you can look past it and start over! Way to go, my friend!

    It's also kind of ironic that you mention how you feel going up the stairs. Just to warn you, this may sound extremely, downright weird, but hey, it must be a side effect of spark-deprival or something. Okay, so I am in the weird habit of putting my hands on the tops of my thighs when I walk up the stairs if I have nothing in my hands. It's kind of exciting and motivating at the same time to be able to feel my muscles working, and being reassured that yes, they are there! :)

    Okay, now I'm off to catch up on all the other amazing blogs you wrote while I was off spark. :) What a burden... emoticon
    2536 days ago
    I am so glad to have found SP, too; while I think you're absolutely right about whether to say anything to the lady in the bathroom/on the stairs/in the motorized shopping cart, you've certainly motivated me to say more about SP to people in my life who are noticing the spring my step.

    Way to write uplifting in the face of not-the-news-you-wanted from the scale.

    2538 days ago
    My sister is the lady in the bathroom. It kills me to not say anything because she is too young (she's 56) to be in such poor health. She is almost certainly going to die young. She knows she is 200 pounds overweight. She knows she should exercise. She knows every excuse and then some for why she "can't".

    It makes me so sad that I can't help her other than to support her when she goes to water aerobics or sticks to whatever PT she has to help her walk.

    2538 days ago
    You were kind to not point out the obvious to her. I do agree that it would be nice to be able to point people towards resources without making them feel bad, but I haven't found a way to do it either.

    And when I was reading your post, I wondered to myself, hmmm, perhaps she's already a Sparker at the beginning stages...

    I recently read a magazine article about a woman who'd lost a LOT of weight, and one reason she said she could do it was because of SparkPeople.com. Hurray!
    2539 days ago
    I had to come look at this blog when I saw the title. There go by the grace of God I. I appreciate your kindness to that lady simply because your are not aware of where she is in her journey and there was no judgement. Being on my journey, I have had people say things that are unkind and assuming, so I can appreciate this all the more. Thanks
    2539 days ago
    I've been that lady, too. And all the well meaning people couldn't help me until I was ready. Sigh
    2539 days ago
  • no profile photo GARBLEDEEGOOK
    ... and maybe this women is in a rut and doesn't know where to get help. Perhaps, we could put our heads together and find a strategy to spread the spark or health around without clobbering them on the head and making them feel bad.

    Put a flyer when nobody is in there on the mirror about spark? in every bathroom at school, which is where I'm assuming this happened. Our school would require a stamp on such things to sanction the content (call it censorship) although they made up another story.

    What if it's somewhere else? What do you think?
    2539 days ago
  • OPTIMIST1948
    I;ve been "The Lady on the Stairs" and it is embarrassing. What a wonderful story.
    2539 days ago
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