Sunday, April 08, 2012
I was invited to a dutch treat yesterday - the invitor was my former landlady but the host was her daugther with boyfriend...I thought it was rather funny that she invited me without asking her daughter – but I called the daughter and asked if it was all right since it was a dutch treat...and it was. I made an asian carrot salad with ginger and sesame oil and cooked some eggs an created a filling with the yolks, spinach, anchovies, onion and sour cream...very nice.
The best part was that they live five kilometres from me, the perfect bikt tour, doggy was happy and so was I. There was a very icy northern wind but a lot of sunshine and the wind was with me on the way home so it was ok. I should do some dutch treat lunches like that but have to hurdles 1) would have to clean my house which is for the moment a BIG project and 2) would have to collect the energy from somewhere and I simply don´t have more than necesarry to work and take care of myself, daughter and dog...
Today I read an article from the "motivational" bunch with healine "create a healthy surrounding! At the end there was an eaple of a lady who had dabbed the excess grease from her pizza with a napkin and then others had followed her example...pah! If there is a pizza in front of me there is NO WAY I would dab away any grease, I´ll eat it all. And I think that is the difference between a "Normal" eater and a compulsive one, just as there is a difference between a normal drinker and an alcoholic:
The only way I can stay away from that extra grease is to stay away from the pizza, juat as the only way I can stay away from drinking in a destructive way is to stay away from alcohol.
My healthy surrounding has to be created much earlier in the process – when I choose restaurant, when I choose activity, when I make my shopping list. At that stage I still have the possibility to choose, once going to far on the compulsive path there is no stopping. That might change if I ever get abstinent for any long time. My alcoholic treshold has surely moved – I have no problem going to parties with alcohol, I have no problem havig alcohol in the house today, but six years ago when I first got sober, I could not handle that well. Once I found the healthy eating habits that Ican handle and stuck to them long enough I might be able to dab the extra grease of a pizza (though I seriously doubt it)
I have learned a lot from Flylady when she says that advices from BO:S (Born Organized) is not working as they simply don´t understand what problems those living in CHAOS (Can´t Have Anyone Overs Syndrome) have – you got to have the experience to know the problem. Same with healthy living, advices from those who have been there, done that are often more useful than from those who managed it all the time.
I ought to be a little more humble on this – of course I should listen to advice but I am allowed to evaluate it from my perspective and experience.