Saying goodbye to baby Elijah

Friday, April 06, 2012

I havent been around here much lately. We had a terribly sad event happen in our family. As some of you know, all 3 of my children are expecting. The photos on my page are from my oldest daughter, Angela's baby shower. Angela was 3 wks from her due date and went to the dr because she didnt feel the baby move. We all thought it was because he was getting into position, but our worst thoughts and fears became reality when no heart beat was found. They gave her medication to put her in labor, and after a painful delivery (the epidural didnt work very well) it was evident that little Elijah had a cord accident. He was 6lbs, 8oz and looked just like his father. Obviously this was situation that one never sees themselves going through. It was much worse than I even imagined it would be.
However, despite the tragic accident, God is still good. Angela & Toby have amazed me through this whole process, and God has amazed me too. God knew this was going to happen, and look at how he took mercy on his daughter:
First of all, Angela and Toby are young in their faith, but have grown to a maturity early that many never get to. This is what the Lord did: Angela and Toby chose a doctor, not having been referred to him, but chose him randomly. Upon their first visit, they noticed the Christian type decor in the office. Angela thought it was a very refreshing find. At the hospital where I met him, he showed so much compassion and kindness. He had a gentleness about him with a sense of humor that was great to lift the heaviness in the air. He told our kids that his men's ministry were praying for them round the clock. He also arranged for an organization called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep who are volunteer professional photographers, to fly in, and take beautiful keepsake photos for the parents to have. I was so grateful that God put my daughter in the hands of the best possible candidate available because He knew what was to come.
Not only that, but 2 mo before this, Angela met a woman on the internet that had just lost a baby at birth and was going through the most painful time in her life Angela had been helping her through her pain. Who would have thought that 2mo later, Angela would be going through the same situation. The lady came to the hospital before Angela delivered so she could be there to return the kindness. I dont believe in coincidence. God put someone in Angela's life 2 mo before this tragedy that could ACTUALLY understand how she feels to help her through this. God's mercy and love for my daughter just makes me love Him more.
Because Angela & Toby were still in the hospital, we grandparents had to plan the funeral. We took care of the cost and made all of the arrangements. It was our honor to do so. We didnt want them to have any more stress than necessary and wanted them to just focus on trying to wrap their minds around this and start the healing process.
The funeral was beautiful and of course very painful. Angela made him a temporary grave stone from the plaster foot prints that the nurse in the hospital help her make.
Below is the poem his Daddy wrote to him:
Though we never got to meet you
and you didnt get to stay
We have faith that God the Father
must have wanted it that way.

He designed and loved you so,
before you ever came to be;
You're our precious blessing
whom we, too, will love eternally.

He called you for His purpose
and is changing us inside
to accept His sovereign will
and know our baby is alive

We will miss you
but we have within a hope we an afford;
That you're absent from the body
and now present with the Lord.

Elijah Kai Moore, we love you, know you are with our Lord, and cant wait to see you again.
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    I'm so sad to hear of your loss. Praise God that He is a Redeeming God and He will use this to conform them to the image of Christ.

    I'll be praying for them.
    2263 days ago
    My heart aches for your loss. God bless Elijah now & forever.
    The poem is amazing-how people can find the strength & the words while going through such pain is awesome. My best friend went through a very similar thing about 13 yrs ago. I hope you don't mind me sharing the poem with her, & some other friends. I will surely do so as a tribute to Elijah.
    Love & peace,
    June :)
    2264 days ago
    This is a sweet and heartwrenching story. I'm so sorry for your loss and so grateful that you know the Lords goodness to help ease your pain. May God always bless you and your family with his comforting presence.
    2265 days ago
    Thank you to all of you who offered your words of encouragement and for your prayers. Spark people are the best emoticon
    2266 days ago
    I am sorry for your family's loss. Thank you for sharing the testimony of God's comfort and provision to be with your daughter and son in law at this time in their lives.
    2266 days ago
  • JENNYR0506
    I am so sorry for the terrible loss for your daughter and her husband and for both extended families. What an amazing witness to the moving of God in our everyday lives. He lives! And He loves us! Your story is a testament to those two facts.

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    2266 days ago
    Becky, thank you for your willingness to express so eloquently this very personal story of loss, love and glory. I am praying now for everyone's strength as they walk the coming days and hit the inevitable hard moments. I praise Him that through all of you, He has shown mercy and grace.
    2266 days ago
    Becky, what a beautiful, sad yet happy testimony of how wonderful and loving our God is! So many times people 'blame' God for things that happen in their lives and are forever bitter and full of hate, but no matter what happens God has His plans for us and there is something good to come out of each situation! It is so wonderful to know that you are a family who actually knows God personally and trusts Him completely! Just this morning I was thinking of the miscarriage I had many years ago, It was too early to know if it was a little boy or a little girl, but I do know that one day I will find out because he/she is in Heaven waiting to meet me one day! Oh, how joyous that will be!

    I love your daughter and son in love's glorious attitude and the divine growth they have had in their love and trust for God! They already have more than a lot of 'Christians' will ever experience! God bless each and everyone of you and I am praying and praising for all of you!

    Love and Blessings,
    ~ Judy ♡ ~
    2266 days ago
  • ANYVAR54
    So sorry for your loss, and thankful that you all are giving God glory in this difficult time. Praise Him that Angela reached out to this other woman without knowing that she would one day need it back again. A true testimony of how God uses us. And allows it to return to us again. God's blessings upon you.
    2266 days ago
    As I read this sad blog a few days before Easter I felt joy in my heart. Some children never receive so much love throughout their entire lives. Elijah will always be with you, and he left this world knowing he was loved. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
    2266 days ago
    This is magnificient.
    You can never tell how God look after us no matter where no matter when and only the believer sees him.
    2266 days ago
    What a beautiful story to such a tragic event. The dad's tribute was amazing. I lost two babies when I was younger, early in each pregnancy, and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family. May God grant you peace and comfort. He will be with you.
    2266 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. May God continue to give you the strength to move forward.
    2266 days ago
    How sad for you and your family. You know the Lord is with you and your family. God is Good!
    2266 days ago
    I am so sorry for your family's loss. What a moving story and tribute to your grandbaby and kids.
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