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It's all about attitude

Tuesday, April 03, 2012

Everything about being successful, be it weight loss, participating in an online community, raising your kids, work, anything, is about your attitude. A bad attitude sours everyone around you, sabotages your efforts, and ends in eventual failure.

I see it here on the message boards, a lot. A well meaning person with an opinion, maybe even good advice, is dismissed because their attitude is wrong. People here don't respond to sarcasm and condescension. They respond to positivity and helpfulness. On the same token, coming here with a chip on your shoulder, unwilling to listen to helpful advice, means you won't progress, or find the truth. You might even get the answer you were looking for, but that doesn't mean it's *correct*.

Weight loss is often formulated a 80% nutrition, and 20% exercise. I would like to change that. I think it's 100% but attitude. We see it all the t ime, the person who wants to burn fat from t heir thighs, lose 20 lbs in a month, or get-thin-quick scam themselves out of their own hard-earned money so they don't have to work at it.

Until your attitude is right, and you are willing to work and learn... you won't succeed.
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    i agree attitude goes along way but it is not always all.attitude can change or something can come along in life that no matter what attitude you had it can effect it like my two brain ops receantly,also my cancer scare.attitude takes you far but even with the right attitude there are times when you need support either from family,friends,sp,dr etc.no man is an island as they say.great blog though.loved it emoticon
    2243 days ago
    The Lovely Bird... you're totally right. Relentless positivity can be draining in and of itself. I do have off-days, and many people here do too! I see blogs about them constantly. I'm actually becoming friends with some of the "edgier" sorts, and they're always a fresh change.

    Everyone has off days; what I'm talking about are those people who are relentlessly negative, or always shifting the blame anywhere but themselves. You know the sorts, the ones who go to the gym and swear they "can't do that" - they just don't get it!
    2243 days ago
    I agree that by some of the posts, you can tell who is more likely to reach their goals and who may not. However, it took my many tries to realize what I was doing wrong. An change in attitude and the way I view myself was key, but nobody could really tell me that. Even someone were to flat out say it, being told something and coming to that revelation yourself is totally different. Some things, you just have to experience on your own and no one can make the journey for you, as much as they may want to.
    2243 days ago
    I like this post! I think you are right on. But, I also totally get what TheLovelyBird is saying and have read plenty of "down" posts and appreciate the tired honesty that is presented. That doesn't change that at their core, the attitude and belief system is what's going to fuel winning in the end.
    2244 days ago
    Sometimes I find the relentless cheeriness totally overwhelming. It sets up this expectation in my mind that we're supposed to be upbeat all the time, when sometimes I feel apathy towards my diet and need to push through on autopilot to get through the day. I do think that people who are openly hostile or negative have no place here, because we come seeking support not unhelpful criticism, but I love posters who are honest or even those who use sarcasm to get through the day when they're having a rough day. Some days I'd rather have someone openly having a hard time or *gasp* a lack of motivation than get one more emoticon or emoticon . I don't want to mask my personality here and put on a "sparkpeople super chipper funtime awesomepants" face. I'm not always upbeat! I am sometimes, and encouragement is great when it comes with a positive outlook, but sometimes a little personality and honesty gets me farther.
    2244 days ago
    Nail on the head! I agree with you. I want to reach out to those who are setting themselves up for failure and shake some sense into them, but that is not my place. We can only share what has worked and what has not and hope that others will learn from that.
    2244 days ago
    Exactly right! You can almost tell reading posts who is setting themselves up for success and who is not.
    2244 days ago
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