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Sunday, April 01, 2012

Here it is April 1st, 5 months since I joined SP. I've made so many changes, small changes, but healthy ones, and yet I've had no weight loss at all. I checked my calender where I jot down my weigh-ins and I'm exactly the same as it was on January 1st. I suppose I should be happy that I haven't gained weight, but I certainly had hoped I would have lost at least a few pounds. I understand change takes time, but I'm frustrated because I've traded veggies for my mac & cheese, cut my portions, added protein and added walking 3 miles a day at least 3 times a week.... I guess it's just not enough, but honestly, I'm not sure how much more I'm willing to do. If I would see some weight loss results I'd be more willing to put inthe effort, but right now, I'm wondering what's the point. Sorry to sound like such a downer, but this is the only place I feel safe to vent my feelings.... everywhere else I put on a happy face and tell people things are fine, going well, but here the truth is, all is not fine or going well. Do I resolve myself to just accepting this is the way I am and stop fighting nature???
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  • DMANN104
    I too have been your boat... I have been Sparking off and on for about 5 years. Through those years (not all documented) I have lost about 15 lbs, then had a baby and gained, and then lost 20-25 lbs, and then maintained for a year, etc, etc. I too have had many times when I would ask myself if it was worth giving up certain treats or the time spent exercising - and I did kinda give it up for awhile.

    But I keep coming back... and I find that each time I come back, I have less "bad" habits to give up, and less obstacles to overcome in regard with the exercise. It does need to be a lifestyle change and you can't see it as a "diet" (as in giving up foods). It is choosing to be healthy - both for yourself and for your love ones.

    As to not losing any weight - have you lost any inches or toned up any where? Do you have more energy than before? Do you feel "healthier"? There are so many other ways to see the benefits to your healthier lifestyle than just seeing the numbers on the scale.

    Right now I have been doing a major push with my exercising and not seeing the scale move but I do notice that I am toning up and my cardio is so much better than it was. And I am happier & less stressed in my every day activities. I am discouraged that I haven't lost anything, but I have come to terms that it doesn't matter that much. And maybe I will just have to work a bit harder (or longer) to see any weight change. But I do know that I am becoming a healthier me... and that is what keeps me motivated to keep working at it. You need to find something that will keep you motivated to keep on working at it - it will be different for everyone.

    Keep at it - Don't give up!! There are only benefits from eating healthier & exercising!!
    2251 days ago
  • ROUNDTOWNMOM
    Hi Barb..........not sure if you're even still around, but..............here's my 2 cents worth on your blog. I'm going to be pretty brutally honest with you, so if you want to stop reading now, that's ok.

    First of all, losing weight is hard work. Period. Your statement " I'm not sure how much more I'm willing to do." tells me more than every other sentence in your blog. I'm 56 and I've been on this rollercoaster ride for several years. I've hit maintenance only to not know how to maintain and gain a lot back. Each time I have to lose, it gets slower. BUT.........I'm determined to not let this weight slow me down. The health benefits far outweigh, for me, what it takes to get there..........and this time I"m staying there.

    Your body adjusts to exercise. Walking that 3 miles 3 times a week is great if you were sedentary before, but do you do anything else? Does that walk get your heart rate up to a pace where it burns calories? If that's all you do and the answer to the question about your heart rate is no, then the walk is just that..........a nice, 3 mile walk 3 times a week that will at least keep you mobile. It will NOT help with weight loss. That takes *exercise*. There are tons of videos on the Spark site. There are tons of DVDs out there. I found that I love distance biking. Find something that piques your interest! Dance! Move! Get active beyond your daily routine.

    Something I hate but do anyway is light Strength training as well. Muscle burns fat faster than fat burns fat.................... there are DVDs galore about this as well.


    Food: while you've substituted some healthy things, are you actually tracking what you eat? I find I can really fool myself into thinking that I"m not eating much when, in all truthfulness, when I actually measure and look at portions, I am. Substituting is only a step............

    Have you had a good physical? Do you have health issues that could be stalling your weight loss efforts?

    I hope I've helped some too. You have to WANT to feel better about your weight and your weight loss efforts. It has to be WORTH THE WORK. If you are not willing to invest what it takes in time and effort............if you're not sure how much more you want to invest..... then you aren't sure you really want to lose the weight. You have two lovely boys...........I'm sure you want to be around for them for a long time. However, as noble as it is to want to be here for them.........the bigger question is this:

    .........how much are you worth to YOURSELF?


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    2251 days ago
  • THE_COUNTESS
    I think, if you aren't happy with the way things are you should do what you can to change them. I know you might not want to hear this, but being a woman automatically puts us at a disadvantage when it comes to loosing weight because we naturally have less muscle mass then men, and muscle burns fat, so they (naturally, not in every case obviously lol) have faster metabolisms. Also, they tend to turn to things that help burn fat, like working out and playing sports whereas women are more likely to stay in (and eat, in some cases). Being older doesn't help things either. I don't say any of this to discourage you, but to say that you shouldn't feel bad because it's slow going. I know it's a bummer (I've been on and off of this and that diet for over 10 years, so I know it's discouraging to work -so- hard and not see any results).
    It's my opinion that you shouldn't give up. If losing weight is something you want to do for your own health and happiness, then keep at it; sometimes our bodies are just stubborn and sometimes they hold on to the weight until we -make- them give it up.
    You might want to talk to your Dr as well, there are somethings that can make it really hard and in some cases near impossible to lose weight (I know for me, it's the thyroid thing, so I have to do extra stuff...) and s/he might even be able to give you some tips. Our bodies are the same, yet very different, so maybe you just need to try something new.
    Don't give up, Barb! emoticon

    I hope that helped. emoticon
    2251 days ago
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