Facing Fear (19): The worst that can happen

Saturday, March 10, 2012

I can't believe that it's been nearly 20 days since my last post.

I've been doing well. I've been sticking to my revised plan set to lose 1/2 lb a week - and it's worked! This semester has been crazy busy for me. I've been working hard, but staying balanced.

My goal to face 30 fears still stands. It's just taking a little longer than planned. Isn't that typical of any weight-related goal? Everything seems to take a little longer than I want it to. But I'll still get there! emoticon

The fear that I'm writing about today happened to a friend of mine. Her husband, who is in his early fifties, was just diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer. He went to the doctor because his fingers had been tingling. The doctor didn't think that it was anything serious, but ran an MRI just to make sure. They found a tumor the size of a golf ball in his parietal lobe. Now they are making decisions on whether to treat or not. Things are complicated by the fact that my friend and her husband live in Hawaii and both of their families are on the mainland (East Coast and West Coast). He won't be able to travel for a specified amount of time after any brain procedures (e.g., biopsies). Their lives completely changed within two weeks.

Fortunately, I've been only peripherally touched by this. I know that many people here on Spark are dealing with similar things and my heart goes out to you.

My first reaction to this event was compassion. I'm pitching in to make things as easy as possible for my friend and her husband over the next few months. My second reaction was extreme gratefulness. I am SO lucky to be healthy, to have a healthy husband, to have a good job, to have my family...... Sometimes tragedies can make us appreciate what we have. There is always something good to appreciate and savor.
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    Man, that situation is awful. My heart goes out to your friend and her husband. I recently watched a documentary about an alternative treatment for cancer (particularly brain cancer) using antineoplastons developed by Dr. Burzynski that is being suppressed by the government because it has a high success rate and will compete with the toxic but profitable cancer treatments offered by large pharmaceutical companies (who control the FDA). I don't know if your friend and her husband are looking in to alternative treatments, but you may want to recommend this video just for their general knowledge:


    Dr. Burzynski operates a clinic in Texas:


    You're right that these situations should remind us how precious life is and how we should not take anything for granted. Thank you for sharing!
    3426 days ago
    I am very sorry for your friend and her husband...cancer is a monster. I have dealt with that in my family. I am sure you will be there for your friends and I know they will appreciate everything you do for them. You have a big heart.

    We do often take our health and other's health for granted. Things can really change in the blink of an eye. Thanks for reminding me to once again enjoy every moment.

    3426 days ago
    so much to say. I am 61 and just had a biopsy for a minor skin cancer and my fear came back. I have an anxiety disorder I thought I healed while writing my memoir but it came back like a frieght train when even the word cancer was said to me. It was negative. I'm ok. but life is scary. good blog aloha from Hawaii
    3426 days ago
    I have gone through this very thing when my daughter was a baby. She was diagnosed with brain cancer at 2 months old and her tumor was the size of a grapefruit. She is now 10 and we have many challenges but I am glad I had my good friends to count on.
    The best advice I can give is be there for them. When you feel you aren't doing enough believe me its the hardest thing to go through and for me it was clear right away who our true friends were. Don't be afraid to be an ear, take them a meal or anything which seems so little. It means the world...
    Thinking of them in my heart and wish them luck in the difficult decisions they have to make.
    3426 days ago
    This series on fear is so wonderful and, I'm sure, cathartic for you. Thanks for sharing.
    3426 days ago
    This blog made me cry.....REALLY. It touched a place that is very fresh for me. You are so right that gratitude for everything we have, physically, mentally, and emotionally is crucial. My husband only had a "brush" with cancer recently, not the devastation that your friend is experiencing, but it was frightening enough to give us one more jolt into the realm of gratitude and appreciation.
    I'm glad to see you again. I hope your life slows down enough for you to have some fun. It sounds like you are doing well.
    3426 days ago
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