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family support and non-support

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

I had a loving mom who battled weight issues herself; she never criticized me or pushed weight loss things on me (she really didn't have to, I was miserable being one of only three girls in my entire elementary school that was overweight!). I had other relatives, particularly one slim aunt, who constantly lit into me. I felt like telling her "Do you think anyone ENJOYS being fat? I would rather cut off a body part than be fat; I just have an awful time keeping lost weight off!". But I would just take it and feel like dirt. Many very, very hurtful words were said, and she was a person I really looked up to (and still do).
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    I'm so sorry you had that feeling growing up. We tend to continue to accept those hurtful words as truth and therefore continue to struggle with them. Anytime my brother says something to me about my weight, I leave the room and cry! I should be over it by now!! Anyway, you are on the right track. Think positive thoughts about yourself.
    3192 days ago
    It is amazing how some folks feel humiliation is a form of tough love. As if their words are pearls from Heaven and now that we have been enlightened, we will quickly drop the weight.
    Some people just suck at giving support.
    Others just suck.

    We often have to go outside our families to find the support we need.
    It doesn't mean we don't love them, they just can't give us what they need.

    Thank goodness we found Spark!

    Hang in there,
    3200 days ago
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