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Pregnant at 50?

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

My friend Jenna has four grown kids,3 birds,4 dogs,5 cats and a pregnancy she dont know what to do about.With her being 50 and her husband Josh doesnt want a baby,she is all torn up.I have several friends that waited for kids.She knows I will support her decision,her grown kids think it is great but she is too old.I say do whats in your heart.I mean come on,she wasnt the only one making the baby!Josh doesnt have to decide to abort his baby or keep it.She feels tons of pressure from him and her parents.Please spark friends,if you were in this situation let me know.Maybe I can help her somehow by letting her read your stories.... emoticonSUSAN
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    I'd feel terrible for any 50-year-old woman who became a mother. It's usually too late; most women don't have enough energy to begin motherhood in earnest at that late age.
    2250 days ago
    Oh, she is so blessed! I never had children - I would welcome one at any age if God thought it was right for me. We could not adopt because we did not ever have the financial resources to provide for an adopted child (they have certain requirements.) I PRAY she does not consider ending this precious life.
    2250 days ago
    When I was around 21 I had a friend who decided to have an abortion. I didn't agree with her decision, but I wanted to be supportive of her. When she told me, I didn't say anything because I was afraid of saying the wrong thing and making her feel even worse. I wish I had known what to say to her at that time. So I'll be praying for you!

    It may be, as many others have said, that this child will be her joy. Even if it isn't, I believe that God can use all of our decisions (as well as everything that happens to us in our lives) to make us a better, holier person if we let Him. Even if having her baby means a lot of stuggle and sacrifice, in the end she can be the better for it.
    2250 days ago
  • IAM_HIS2
    I pray you do not get an abortion. You have a gift of life within you that only God can decided when his/her time is to end. Please stop and think about about the seriousness of abortion--MURDER. In all truthfulness, shouldn't a baby to safe in his.her mother's wound?

    God will provide for you and your baby--you just may have the next pope, president, doctor or great saint who will change the world. Cherish that baby and its life.
    2250 days ago
    I could never suggest an abortion. Has she thought about adoption options. I worked in Labor and Delivery and we had a huge number of women who were having babies at this age. I wouldn't want to be in that situation, but I'm sure she will make the right decision. She seems to have a huge support system so that's a great thing.
    2253 days ago
  • D-ABBY
    Praying for your friend. I don't think I could abort a baby, but to have one in late like would be a challenge. It is a challenge that can be overcome. They can do this. And DH may be very surprised how well it goes once he gets past the shock of it all.
    2254 days ago
  • EMILYD1952
    I agree with all said.
    The child is a blessing to her.
    2254 days ago
    I agree with all the comments - my husband turned 50 when my youngest was born and I was in my late 30's. Children keep you young!
    2254 days ago
    My brother and his wife received an extra blessing in their fifties and they have been blessed beyond measure. This is a decision she has to make. Her husband will have to abide with it and i know if he really lets himself, he will enjoy this one as much if not more than their older kids. As far as other familly members, they should not be judgemental either way.
    She is fortunate to have a friend who will support her either way.
    Bless you
    2254 days ago
    I know several couples who've been surprised with a 'winter years' baby. They all struggled with the shock and worried about both the mommy's and baby's health. None have regretted the decision to be parents again and I hear often their youngest child keeps them young.

    You're a special friend to be supportive and non-judgemental. She is very blessed to have you. By the way, I know how your friend feels. She and I are close in age and I would be FREAKING OUT!
    2254 days ago
    Everyone I know who had a baby late has said how blessed they were with their little "sunshine".

    The men that I know tend to be worried about how old they will be when the baby graduates from high school. So, she is thinking 'gosh, I'm 50, can I do this?' and he might be thinking 'I'll be 70, and I'm terrified at the thought of raising a child at age 70'.

    I was 'only 40' with my last one, and she has kept me young.

    If I was in her shoes, I'd smile and say 'I'm not sure why God is giving us this baby, but I trust that He has a plan'.
    2254 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/22/2012 3:27:01 PM
    I would say if the baby is healthy, and she wants the baby, then do what she feels in her heart. To me it sounds like she wants the baby. Nobody has the right to tell you what to do with your body. I feel for her. It makes it hard when people are putting pressure on you. Let us know how she is doing. Give her a hug for me!
    2254 days ago
    I wasn't 50 but there were 10 years between my babies and I wasn't supposed to have anymore babies but then I became pregnant and I seriously thought I would die. You know what! God saw fit to give me that baby and he was the "Sunshine" of my life. I enjoyed him so much! To this day, and he is 35 years old, he is still my "Sunshine". God knew what was best for me. Good luck to your friend in whatever she decides.
    2254 days ago
  • DEBLYNN323
    I think it's an individual choice, but believe things happen for a reason and things work out the way they were meant to be. Wishing your friend good luck!
    2254 days ago
    My mom was all over me aborting my first born because I was too young, homeless, without a job, without a man, without a future, without support...
    I chose my son.
    Everything else fell into place.
    I personally believe age is just a number and Love conquers all.
    2254 days ago
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