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Valentines Blog - Showing Love - Red Roses Team

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

In the past year, I have shown myself a lot of love. I have made myself a priority and have started doing things for me. I go to the gym on a regular basis, I am eating better (although far from perfect) and I started back to school to finish my bachelors degree which is something I have always wanted to do.

I try to be there for my family, and show them love all the time, but sometimes I think I fail here. I feel I could do better here. Don't get me wrong, I am there for them, I drive them to activities, I listen to them, but I don't always feel like I interract with them enough. I think I spread myself too thin and I do try to find ways to spend time with them even though I am slammed.

As for friends, they know if they ever need to talk, etc. they can just call me. I am a GREAT listener. Unfortunately my friends tend to take advantage of that, and I have nobody left to talk to. This is hard. Sometimes it would be nice to just be about me. To have 1 conversation every so often where I could say everything I am going through.

So back to showing love. In a way, exercising and eating right is also giving back to my family because I know they want me to be around a really long time. It is also good for my girls to see healthy habits and hopefully pick some up themselves.

Guess thats it for now. Sorry this blog is so last minute! Hugs to all and Happy Valentines Day!
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    Nicole, taking care of yourself needs to have a high priority. Making the decision to return to classes is great, and knowing that the journey is different now that you're "an adult" and have a family is important.

    And as you commented on my blog, whatever I can do to support and help you, just name it and I will. I remember you talking about getting up for 5:30 a.m. sessions, and I told myself I could never do that. Well, I know that you can and because of you, I'm thinking I can at least do a few things that I thought I couldn't. Stay with the course you set; I'm right here with you emoticon
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    Nicole, I think that you are doing great and that you give more to your family than you give yourself credit for. I'm glad that you realize that taking the time for yourself is giving something to your girls - giving them a healthy mom and being a role model is so important. We can all do more for our families, but there's only so much time, and it's all about balance. I hope that your friends will wake up to see that they need to be there for you as you are for them. Maybe you can tell them how you really feel and let them know you need to be heard, too - they may think that you are just fine and have it all together! It was hard for me to share some of the challenges I was going through with my son, but when I did, I found such caring and compassion from my friends.
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  • MISSA9
    Awesome Blog and i do feel that i struggle showing love to my family especially my siblings..
    2287 days ago
    Your blog shows the balance that you are building into your life. You are changing some things, yet staying in touch with those people and things that are essential to you. Way to Go! Your ability to notice what you are wanting and needing and then consider how you might move toward those things makes so much sense. Growing into genuine friendships where there is give and take, listening and being listening too on both sides sounds like healthy maturity to me. I respect your honesty with yourself and with others. So here's to you, my friend. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • BARBIE176
    Awesome blog Nicole! I am so happy to hear that you are doing some positive things for you! That is a huge step in the right direction. I hope you know that you can chat with any number of your spark friends. I am a good listener too. Way to go on going back to school. That will definitely lessen the time you have available for your family, but that isn't always a bad thing. It will show your children how important it is to take care of themselves as they grow older, and as long as they know you are there when absolutely they need you, that should be good.
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    2287 days ago
    You can always talk to me if you need someone to talk to. I may not have children but I am a good listener. There is never enough time in the day to get to everything we need / want to it seems. Good for you for going back to school! emoticon You are doing the best you can given that you are spread so thin and that is all that anyone can ask of you. You are doing great by trying to show your daughters that you can and should take care of yourself.

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  • LISA0517
    Great blog!

    Sometimes those of us who are great listeners have to tell our friends that we have a need to talk. They don't mean to monopolize the conversations, they just get so used to us listening. LOL

    2287 days ago
    Nicole, my friend! I am here for you if you need someone to listen to you. You have a very busy schedule. I am sure that your children cherish the time they get to spend with you. It isn't always about how much as it is about the quality of the time spent.

    2287 days ago
    I know what you mean about family. I don't think there is ever enough time in the day. Kids get home from school have activities, homework, supper get ready for bed and get to bed....just doesn't seem like much time.

    That is wonderful that you are going back to school...congrats to you!

    If you ever need an ear let me know.
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