"Wasting Away..."

Thursday, February 09, 2012

"You're wasting away!" someone said to me today.

I know they meant it nicely, but let's get one thing straight- that is NOT a compliment!

Yeah, I'm way smaller.

But I'm also way stronger. I'm wearing a baggy sweatshirt, but if you could see my arms, you would see MUSCLES! And I don't know how you're missing my leg muscles, which you can see through my leggings! You don't need x-ray vision for that!

I know people have good intentions when they compliment someone on their weight loss, but saying things like "you're wasting away" or "you're going to disappear soon" can be more hurtful than helpful. While I'm small on inches I'm big on strength, and on health, and I don't like being compared to someone who is starving, impoverished, or sick... because I KNOW I don't look like that. And really, unless you're SURE someone has been actively trying to lose weight, it's probably better that you don't comment on their weight at all. While my weight loss has been intentional, I know that in many people it is an unwanted consequence of illness or stress. And nobody wants to be celebrated for being sick and anxious.

Mind your words, folks!

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    When I was down at 162, I had people telling me that. And I am planning to get even smaller than that! I hate comments people make (they haven't made any since I've gained back 35lbs tho..lol). Sometimes I think they have no common sense!
    2265 days ago
    I agree stong is the new skinny.. Give me sexxy muscles anyday. You are soo right, no one wants to be told they are disappearing. Keep your head up girl..

    PS totally thought this was going to be about Margaritaville :) Can you tell I am ready for Friday
    2266 days ago
    Lol hate that wasting away...fitter fitter lol
    2266 days ago
    You're absolutely right ... my father literally wasted away, and it was so painful to watch, I can't imagine why anyone would say that jokingly ... I guess they don't know what it's like.
    2267 days ago
    How rude-they're jealous!
    2267 days ago
    Seriously!! You're so right!!! STRONG is the new SKINNY! One of my favorite sayings! I seriously want to get a shirt that says that! (Bodyrock.tv has a t-shirt program where you can put together your own shirt with logos and stuff and I want to get one that says that!)

    People need to watch how they're talking! You've worked your booty off! Literally! haha, and "wasting away" implies being sickly.. ugh... PEOPLE!
    2267 days ago
    Yeah, people are dumb. I hate being told I'm skinny. I want to flex my arm and be like, "That look skinny to you, *expletive*?!" LOL
    2267 days ago
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