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Pause Button

Tuesday, February 07, 2012

So my husband and I have decided to push the pause button on our TTC efforts for now, after all the ups and downs I need a little break to focus on getting my body back in order, and more importantly, getting my relationship in order! Maybe you ladies aren't like me but I have a very hard time not obsessing- constantly charting and wondering and making myself miserable during the 2ww.

Also although Kyle always said he would "be very happy" if we were to get pregnant he was not what I would consider in an actively trying state of mind- he wasn't quite ready. It was an if an accident happens it happens, mode while I could hardly get my mind on anything else. So this should give us a little time to re-group and get excited about a ramped-up effort. The official date to recommence will be our wedding anniversary, that is July 3rd 2012, which gives me about 6 months which is perfect. Enough time to get my mind off of it, refocus, and set some priorities- but also not enough time to feel like it is never going to happen!

Honestly, I am excited. I really want him to be a little more on board, this experience has such highs and lows and would be so much better to be able to share them all with him.

In other news, I am doing WAY better with my exercising. This being sick took a lot out of me and just being able to get back in the swing of things over the last week or two has made all the difference.
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  • KLMAYS08
    Great plan :)
    2284 days ago
    You know, taking a break and not focusing on it may lower your stress so much that you DO conceive. Least, that's how it worked for me. Went off BC in October, quit my super stressful job AND decided to start "really" trying in April, decided in August we were going to stop trying and resume again after the holidays cause I just needed a break from trying to control and plan everything. Graduated from college on August 12th and conceived on August 14th. I think all my stress from managing a business, being on call 24/7, doing school full-time, a 3hr commute, chronic pain from not allowing myself to rest and heal - all of that was interfering with conception and it wasn't until I was able to let that go that things worked out. So I think stepping back and relaxing and focusing on fun stuff again is a GREAT idea! Take weekend trips together, spend a day lazing around in bed - things you won't be able to do as easily once you're pregnant and kids are in the picture. Do what makes you happy, and have faith that the other parts will fall into place when they're meant to.
    2322 days ago
  • MCK0582
    Sometimes things happen best when you aren't trying & you aren't constantly thinking about it. I used to obsess in the beginning and found myself so upset all the time. Now I have found I am trying to enjoy the free time I still have and do the things I won't so easily be able to do with children. And also I am realizing that I have this time to get myself in the best shape I can. It can be hard to turn the switch off, but I promise you you will feel better and things might even start happening :)
    2322 days ago
    We are going on Month 5 of TTC so I definitely know what you're saying! I have become a little obsessed and it basically feels like a job and Brian is just a passive companion because there's nothing really he can do....except, you know what! ;) Enjoy the next few months stress free and lots of luck when you start trying again in July!!
    2323 days ago
  • *ERICA*
    TTC is so hard on a relationship! It took 6 months both times with my kids and once we stopped trying and decided to just have fun and enjoy each other is when we ended up with a kid. so dont put so much stress on yourself and have fun emoticon but i know what you mean about the 2ww...i get anxious about it but for the opposite reason some months...good luck!!!
    2323 days ago
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