Trying to Motivate My Hubby

Thursday, January 26, 2012

I have been trying to get my hubby to join me on my journey but it seems he just isn't motivated emoticon

He says he's happy for me and my weight loss so far and that he was gonna start on his weight loss plan but he hasn't as of yet. I even got him a Free 1 month pass to the gym I just joined. I asked him if he was going to go with me this weekend and his answer is always "I don't know yet.

I hope my enthusiasm isn't making him not want to be my partner in the journey. But I'm not going to let his unwillingness deter me from my goal! I know he can do it because he has done it before and he lost 50lbs.
Well I will just give him his space and let him start whenever he is ready to start his plan.

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    Just keep moving forward! He will eventually feel motivated... or he won;t but YOU can be happier and healthier. Be proud of yourself. your attitude is AWESOME!
    3470 days ago
    He will only start when HE is ready. In the meanwhile, continue being the marvelous role model you are.
    3470 days ago
    Unfortunately you can't WANT to do it for him. HE has to want to do it. Just keep doing your plan. He may come around. Don't allow him to mess up your commitment. emoticon
    3470 days ago
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    I have a saying & it goes for everything. You can't motivate the unmotivated. He isn't ready yet. He will be, you just have to do your own thing and one day he will come around. When I joined SP in 2008, I did it by myself. I started to lose weight by myself and then the BF got on board after a few months. Now that have put on a few pounds and want to get them back off, the BF is still with me 100%. All you can hope to do is to inspire with your actions. I will admit it's easier when you have someone to do it with, but that's what Spark People is for, right?
    3470 days ago
    The best thing you can do is be an example - it sends a powerful message!
    3470 days ago
  • ACCT1908

    I'm not married, but it's like that with the people in my family. I can't want it for them, more than they want it for themselves.

    Keep at it and just watch, one randomn day he is going to join you. Be the example you want to see in him :-)

    Have a great day.
    3470 days ago
    It is great that you want to take this journey with your husband, but he may not be ready yet. It is great that he is supportive of you. My DH does not work out with me, but since I do ALL the cooking he had no choice but to change the way he eats. Of course as a result he has lost weight and now doing his own workouts at home. Men are visual so once he sees you are losing he will likely follow.
    3470 days ago
    Thanks for that!!!! Me and my sister in law (his sister) have teamed up and have been at it for about 3 weeks now! I'm sure he'll come around but I just wanted him to do it with me when my SIL isn't around!
    3470 days ago
    You have the right idea and I am sure there are many other people who are going through what you are.
    To everyone who might be...getting fit is like getting saved.
    It is something a person must do on their own time, in their own way and only when they hear the calling and see the value in "saving their soul...or body".
    Try not to take it personal, cause IT IS NOT.
    Just because you embarked on a fantastic journey toward fitness and optimum health...of course you want him to come along. You love him...but you can't expect that just because you made that decision he WILL/MUST come along.
    If anything show him all THE BENEFITS of what your simply doing it. THAT goes a long way.
    Being a great example is the best way to insight others to JOIN IN.
    All the headache and hassle that often comes from trying and trying to get someone to do soemthing they are not ready to do or don't want to often can cause a strain...
    Instead just keep being a positive role model.
    Look for SUPPORT in a friend at the gym.
    A co-worker.
    A church member.
    A long time friend who BOTH OF YOU have already made the decision at your own free will and you will find THAT partnering will be just what you seek.
    In time...when he SEES YOUR TRANSFORMATION...he will probably want to join in and at that time you will be all the stronger in order to be even more of a help to him.
    3470 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/26/2012 12:20:28 PM
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