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Do you have a Best Friend?

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

For as long as I can remember, I wanted a best friend. As a girl and teenager I was really teased relentlessly at school. No best friends there... there were definitely a couple worst enemies... I was picked on for the way I walked, chewed my food, talked, looked, my height, my acne, my flat-chestedness, my brains, and the fact that teachers liked me. I hated it with a passion, but by the time I was about 17 I had developed what my sweet husband calls an "Eat-$h!7 Attitude." Heh Heh Heh... I wasn't rude and certainly wasn't disrespectful... I just didn't care who did or didn't like me anymore. There was no use... NOBODY did! HA!

So, even in adulthood I couldn't find a friend. Not a real one. I tried so hard. I thought for sure that if I put enough effort into all my relationships, that someone besides my hubby would like me! Another woman could SURELY be my friend!

Not so.

Until 3 1/2 years ago. Tonight I put as my facebook status: Lord, I don't know if I've ever properly thanked you for my Best Friend. I asked you for years and years for a fellow-woman who loved me, could laugh at me and with me, would understand me, and would be as close as another sister to me. You sent her to me 3 1/2 years ago and I know she is my bud forever, because you sent her when I needed someone like her the most. Thank You, Lord, that you give us what we need in Your timing...

If you could see us together, you would laugh your butts off. We could not be more opposite. I'm 4'11", she's about 5'8". With heels - which she pretty much wears everyday, she is easily a full foot taller than me. Heck, I can barely take 6 steps in heels. I'm pasty white, she's milk chocolatey. I've got cropped off hair, she keeps a long pony-tail. She's all curves with a tiny waist, I'm shaped like a 14 year old boy. We're the same age, but she's never been married and I've been married 13 years with a 9 year old boy. Her office is stark with no window or decorations, mine is like a second home with every cheesy memento I can put in it to make it look a little less sterile.

We are a weird match. But put us into a room with our enemies and we will chew them up and spit them out in a ping pong of dialogue between the two of us that blasts them in the face like a stick of dynamite. I don't even know if that made any sense, but that's how much we compliment each other. Everyone knows if you get her, you got me to deal with. And if you mess with me, well you best get ready for her wrath.

Anyways, I think she is good for my health. My mental and emotional health. She keeps me sane... and I think that's just as important as any crunch or Ripped DVD. What good is fitness if your mind is falling apart? Thank God for my best friend who helps keep this ol' noggin in shape.

Do you have a best friend?
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    I was 56 years old when God brought TWO wonderful women into my life; not one but TWO! I'd gone years without a friend because I'd been chronically ill for a long time. Then I was healed and for the first time in a long time I was able to reach out to others in stead of being completely focused on me and my problems. This enabled me to BE A FRIEND which in turn attracted friends.

    One of the two women I'm friends with now is a neighbor. We'd been neighbors for several years, but I'd been sick those years so I was unable to respond to Anne's friendly gestures. When I started showing up on her doorstep to bring her fruit from our trees, or to share a recipe with her she responded in kind. Now we are great friends, and do many things together. I thank God for her because Anne is several years older then me, and a very wise and Godly woman. She is an example to me of how to be the perfect grandmother.

    The second woman I'm friends with I met at our new church during a social function. I stopped attending church when I became chronically ill. My husband and I joined a dinner club sponsored by our new church, and my friend Mary and her husband came to our home for dinner. That first night Mary and I discovered how many incredible things we have in common, and our friendship took off like a rocket. There is no doubt this relationship is a "God thing"! I thank God for Mary because she is several years younger then me so I have a lot to offer her in support as she raises three teenagers. But I also thank God for her because she understands what it's like to deal with a dysfunctional family and childhood abuse.

    It's been three years since I was healed of an incurable lung disease and a bunch of other stuff. I can't imagine what my life would be like without these two incredible friends. But God didn't bring them into my life until I was ready to BE A FRIEND. If I hadn't reached out to them I know I would still be friendless today. Before I was healed I was totally caught up in my personal pain and suffering; all I thought about was how terrible my life was. I felt unable to be a friend so I fulfilled my own prophecy and had no friends. God is so patient toward us!

    If you want to read more about the miracle I received in October 2008 PLEASE READ MY PROFILE ON SPARKS.
    2581 days ago
    I am very happy for you dear ! And above all, I am SO glad that you thank God for it. Wish you all the best ! And no, I tried lots for it, but no luck.
    2584 days ago
    All good things come to those who wait! (apparently) sounds like the wait paid off huh? You sound like each others ying and yang . . . Perfect! Continuing having fun!
    2585 days ago
    I can understand that my self. I've thought that I had one of those kind of friends, until I turned around and saw the devil. Your post is so beautiful and well written. I am sure that you speak what many are feeling.

    Enjoy your friendship. :)
    2586 days ago
    I also do not have any close friends - never have. Glad to see you found a friend!! emoticon
    2586 days ago
    ur right to thank God for her, i still don't have one....i have acquaintances, but no one that i could ask for anything. i'll be 60 in september, so i don't hold out any hope - but happy for you
    2586 days ago
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