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What is my "Why"?

Friday, January 20, 2012

I like Jillian Michaels. I like her workouts. I like her attitude. I like her straight forward way of communicating. I don't agree with everything she says, but I like to hear her say it anyway.

One of the things she says (and I'm paraphrasing here) is that you can handle any "how" if you know "why". If you know why you want to do something, you're able to handle any how that comes at you.

Which brings up the question, why do I want to lose weight and then maintain? I really need to figure this out. I've been maintaining between six and eight pounds above my goal weight. For about six months now. I have been doing great with exercise. However, my eating has been erratic at best. I can eat really well for a day or two and then I eat way too much the next day or two or six. Or...I eat well all day and then go nuts at or after dinner.

I'm not overrating because I'm hungry. I'm eating fruits and veggies. I'm getting lots of water and nutrients. I'm just eating too much.

If I knew why I wanted to lose the last few pounds, why I wanted to be healthy, why I want to eat well and exercise, I could handle the how. I would be able to avoid the afternoon runs for cookies. I could reduce the size of the portions I consume. I could reach my goal weight (and probably not care about the number on the scale!) and stay there.

So...what is my why? I need to figure that out...
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  • 02SERENE
    from your blog... " is that you can handle any "how" if you know "why". If you know why you want to do something, you're able to handle any how that comes at you."

    That is such a good question, what, why, how.

    I am sticking with the even more basics of just changing a tiny bit at a time and positive self talk.

    For me, it is an inside out job, when I am more emotionally in touch, I make better choices those days. Even today when I first thought about I was ready to call it a wash, until after I reflected and went -- no I did get exercising in, food was better than before sparks.

    So, no more "quick" snap judgments on myself , I hope.

    Maybe by now you have already figured out your "why".

    2148 days ago
    I listen to a podcast called "Inside Out Weight Loss". The first 2 or 3 episodes talk about toward and away from motivations. Away from motivations are those things that compel us to get pants won't button, I can't stand how I look, etc. Then we lose some weight and our pants fit, we look better, or our cholesterol is better. Then we need to find our toward motivations. What are the ultimate goals, the big "why" we're doing this. To look good in a bikini, to buy any clothes we want, to be healthier? I've heard this many times on spark and have experienced it myself. My clothes fit great, I feel great, what can get me to lose those last 5-10 lbs? Good luck setting and reaching those goals!
    2271 days ago
    Delusional???? lol
    2271 days ago
    Is where you are a bad place? Are you in the healthy range for your height? Why beat yourself up over a few pounds if you can maintain where you are and be happy? Did you ever take the happy weight test? Maybe you are already there.
    I'll keep encouraging you whatever you decide.
    2284 days ago
    Great Blog! Really gives me something to think about. But what does John mean about 'starving children in Oregon?' We take care of our own thank you very much! emoticon
    2284 days ago
  • NEWNAC304
    Good point. Maybe I need to really figure out my "why" so I can get control. I'm like you, I do great all day and then lose all control at night. Or I'll do good even during the week and stumble on the weekend.

    I hope you can figure out your "why".
    2284 days ago
    That is an interesting question. Good luck working on it. I know you will find that why and it will all click.
    2284 days ago
    I've been right where you're at for a while now, barely maintaining what I've done so far because I'm eating too much and sometimes eating with little to no control, so I appreciate your blog.

    I hope you find out your "why" soon!
    2284 days ago
    Good luck!
    2285 days ago
    I wanted to write a really brainy response, but I've come to the conclusion that you'll have to settle for response :)

    Your blog made me think.

    When you're overweight, or grossly overweight, the why seems easier to see. If your blood pressure is sky high, you have diabetes, can't walk up a flight of stairs, can't see your toes, the 'why' is right in your face.

    But what if you're already in the healthy range? What determines where you set you goal weight? And what will motivate you to drop those last 10 lbs or 5 lbs?

    Vanity or midlife crisis?

    In my experience, even if you don't have 100 lbs to lose, losing weight and successfully maintaining this loss involves so much more than continuously eating less and moving more. It requires being real with yourself and facing your demons. It requires learning and re-learning how to deal, how to cope, how to react, and how to roll with the punches.

    Some of my 'whys':
    I can kick any 20-year-old's butt in kickboxing class.
    I can live in my 29 Levi's.

    About erratic eating; I'm still working on this as well. Actually, I wouldn't call my eating erratic, rather sketchy. I'm currently not tracking, and I'm having a heck of a time getting my fruits, veggies and water in on most days. There is much room for improvement.

    I know that I am not getting the full nutrition I need on a daily basis (ice cream counts as dairy, right... ?)

    You're right, it's hard to find a 'why' when on the surface nothing seems to be broken, really. Especially frustrating if you know what you should do and still don't.

    Guess, we'll just need to keep chipping away, and continue to fine-tune as we go.

    2285 days ago
    Wow, good blog with lots to think about.

    I also think that my problem is that I love food and it seems like my family celebrates with food. It is so hard to be with the family and not partake.
    2285 days ago
    Along this journey I would drop weight than pause for weeks or months at a time at a certain 'goal' number. I would be satisfied with my achievement for a while. Like you know I really enjoy numbers. Besides just the number on the scale I would also have my HDL's, LDL's and triglycerides checked. Throughout my journey these numbers have gone in the correct direction. For instance my triglycerides started at above 700 and are now in the 80's. The motivation, the why, sometimes is very elusive though. I want good numbers but I want that slice or two or three of pizza with extra cheese and pepperoni. Sometimes the numbers win sometimes the pizza wins! Like today, I will be honest, the pizza won! It was enjoying the comfort of a food that I have always loved.

    Also I find motivation when I spark another person to begin or continue their journey. Last summer I helped spark my nephew to drop 25 pounds over his summer break. At the beginning of this year I asked a friend, who is at the beginning of his journey, why do you want to loose weight? His answers were, one to get his type 2 diabetes under control, two to be here for when his kids have children. Three to have more energy to do things he enjoys. Four to look better. Five to drop clothes sizes. So far he has dropped 5 pounds this month and is hoping to drop below 300 before the end of the month.

    I am not sure if this helps you with your question of Why? But seeing the positive results from my own journey has given me the spark to want to finish a goal that I have had for a long time. I want to complete a degree in Economics. Knowing that I can set goals and achieve them through hard work encourages me that I can accomplish my goal in my education.
    2286 days ago
    I cant say i gave it any thought of the :why". I think i really need to figure it out too!
    2286 days ago
    I have pondered the same issues my wise friend emoticon .

    For what it's worth I think over eating, whether it is healthy food or not is a matter of conditioning. It's the old "Clear everything on your plate because there are starvinig children in Oregon." emoticon We also live in a super sized world where we are rewarded with a reduced price or a trinket for making a meal larger.

    I know the "why" but like you I really struggle with the "how." All I can say is take my hand and the one on the other side of you and just remember we are all in this together and I'll support you and be there to encourage you.
    2286 days ago
    For me it was taking a look back at the WHAT. I kook at my before pics, I was not healthy. I looked at my past cholesterol reports- not good. and the good cholesterol still needs work. I was out of shape, and I so much wanted to run a half marathon or even a 5 or 10k like my hubby. I want to enjoy my grandchildren. I want to fight against cancer and heart disease. Sometimes you just have to look back at your journey and see all that you have accomplished and soon you will have answered your WHY.
    2286 days ago
    That's so true. I'm trying to work that one out too. I think my why has changed since I started Spark a few years back. I have had health reasons and I have had vanity reasons... but I'm not sure either of those are strong enough anymore. Maybe it is something deeper and more personal - or perhaps, I really don't want to lose the weight because I fear something..

    A deep question and I hope you find you why! Going to keep looking for my owm too.
    2286 days ago
  • RCW0442EHS
    I'm always asking myself that. It's good seeing how it can become a productive part of all of this and not just staying as some nagging voice in the back of my head. It was a good post, I hope you find your "why"?
    2286 days ago
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