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My mental health is just as important as my physical health

Thursday, January 19, 2012

So sometimes I'm what you would call a "pushover." I realize that I am a 31 year old with no kids and a very understanding husband. If someone needs me to sub for a yoga class, I do it. No real thoughts, just "ok."

Normally this is not a big deal. I'm a people pleaser and I don't want anyone to have to miss any family obligations. However, I think I need to begin to learn to say no (sometimes, LOL).

I am currently teaching 3-4 yoga classes a week. It's a lot on top of a full time job and trying to maintain my running fitness while ssssllllooowwwwlllyyy building my bike fitness. So when the gym that I teach at decided that they were going to cut my Thursday night class so they could add a spinning class, I was actually relieved. Awesome, now I have an extra day to work on the bike.

While at yoga last night, I mentioned to the owner that I was no longer teaching up at the gym on Thursday nights. She mentioned that the current Thursday night instructor at the studio (who is pregnant with twins) is having a hard time with the class and would probably like to give the class to me. My first instinct is to take the class. I feel badly since the other instructor is pregnant and I know the owner has a lot on her plate as well. I want to be able to help out. BUT...

I get home and tell my husband. He asks what about spinning. Yes, what about spinning? I REALLY want to take that class. I NEED to take that class. Mentally, I cannot handle any more teaching. The guilt really gets to me though. I have this really deep NEED to help when I know I can.

After thinking it over, I believe I have come up with a better solution which I will discuss with the other instructors at our meeting on Sunday. I will be taking the spinning class. I will do this for my own mental (and physical) health. I believe the new solution will help assuage some of the guilt, but I know some will remain. It's just one more thing to work on...
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    i think you are making the right decision. obviously you want to help and make things best for the studio, but at the same time not everyone else's problems are your problems. i'm sure they can find a temporary substitute!
    2281 days ago
    That's a toughy. I'm sure you'll find balance with all you've got on your plate.
    Spinning is such a great workout and I'm sure you'll love it. Who knows...maybe you'll be teaching it one day! haha

    2281 days ago
  • SARAHJ19
    I have started living by..."say what you mean and mean what you say" If you want to say yes, then say it and mean it! I was always a people pleaser....telling people yes to everything when there were sometimes I really wanted to say no! But I wouldn't say no because I didn't want them to be mad or upset with me. So I chose to please them instead of pleasing myself! Good for you for putting yourself and your needs first! emoticon

    Enjoy the spinning class!!
    2288 days ago
    Glad you decided to work on your spinning. Sometimes when we keep saying yes, it makes us regret it. I know how much you love yoga, and taking on another class when you know you don't really want to, may just kill the fun. It's time for YOU !!!! emoticon Yeah for Spinning. emoticon
    2288 days ago
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