Sometimes I'm ashamed of how I think

Sunday, January 08, 2012

I have a friend from work who should be a model. She just turned 50 and looks like she should be in her mid 20's. At our breaks she talks about her husband and his military time. He still holds a contract job with the military so he's always out on base.
A few days ago she added me to her facebook. Today she posted up a picture of her husband and grandaughter.
I don't know why but it blew me out of the water that he was a very large guy.
It was kind of a mix of how she looks and the military background.
Normally when I think of a good looking woman, I think of a good looking man as her husband.
And when I think of military, I think extremely fit.
So me being overweight, shouldn't I fully understand that weight has nothing to do with a marriage and that even fit people can lose control of their weight?
And the really sad part is earlier today I was watching the biggest loser final weigh in from last season and saw Antone's wife. I caught myself thinking "He was an NFL player and that's his wife?"
I really need to rewire my brain. As much as I hate stereotypical thinking, here I was stuck in it.
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    It happens all the time - it's just the way we are programmed sometimes. But I agree with you about the rewiring - I think I need it too!
    2865 days ago
    When I saw the season finale of Biggest Loser, and today still, I think John has the most potential to gain it all back. I should be rooting for him, for losing so much, but instead I see him as an a$$hole, and with having an overweight wife, and his attitude, he's going to gain it all back.
    We are human, we are wired to judge people, that's how we know to cross to the other side of the street when we see bad people coming... but sometimes we judge too quickly or too often, and I think it's okay.
    2866 days ago
    I think that thinking like that is a product of our society (check out the documentary MissRepresentation) but the way we change and get better is by acknowledging those thoughts and then talking about them. You acknowledge thoughts that you had and it might make us feel uncomfortable but it pushes us forward - it's the same with racism & sexism. Keep up your great work!
    2866 days ago
    I wouldn't let it get to you. Just make an effort to not think those ways in the future. At least you realize your doing it! SO many people go through life being very judgemental (so much worse then any of these thoughts!) and never think there is anything wrong with it.

    I know I'm guilty of similar thoughts.

    2866 days ago
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