PERFECTIONISM - The killer of all joy

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Are you God? No? Then you aren't perfect! Shame on you! When are you finally going to get this right? emoticon emoticon
The coming New Year seemed like a perfect time to remind myself of this. So how can we avoid the trap of New Year's resolutions that don't stick? We could have a challenge for perfectionists to not do things perfectly. For every week that you set yourseIf a goal and don't quite reach it happily you win and you have proven to yourself and everyone around you that you aren't perfect and that you might as well quit trying (being perfect only, of course). My head is starting to spin, what am I really trying to say here? Am I talking to myself? I'm sooo losing control! emoticon

So let's try again: How about setting goals that I have a reasonable amount of control over like:" I will try to eat junk food only on one day of the week" or I will get my heart rate up for at least 30 minutes/day. When we set the goals we should allow margin, like "I know I can usually fit in 45 minutes of exercise/day but I'll plan on 30 minutes and do more if I enjoy it that day," or, "I was planning to only eat junk food only on Sunday but if I end up having a little on Monday I can still do well from Tuesday to Saturday. If I don't feel the need for junk food on Sunday it's a bonus. emoticon
I skip goals that I have little control over altogether, like planning to not get sick, never to get mad at anyone, remembering everyone's Birthday, you fill in the blank.
Most people are disappointed or discouraged not because bad things happen but because bad things happen that they did not expect. Another definition of perfectionism is to never expect myself to make any mistakes.
So, unless you are working your way up the ladder to become God sometime soon (and the position isn't even open right now) don't let perfectionism kill your joy this coming year! emoticon
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  • no profile photo CD10752350
    This blog came straight from heaven.

    This is another one of my big lessons that Jesus is working on with me everyday since I have been to the cross.

    Everyday I spend time with Him He reminds me daily that it is His grace that does it all and I have to stay tuned up to hearing His voice to keep in step with allowing His grace to lead me and help me to live another day of my life.

    His grace reminds me everyday just how much I need His perfection and not my pride of depending on me being peefect.

    I so agree with this blog and once we realize just how much we are lacking in being perfect then we can start going forward in reaching our goals, and visions and hopes and dreams which all come from heaven above.

    thanks for a really inspiring word of truth and happy new year.
    3314 days ago
    I suffer from this disease in fact my fear of not doing something perfectly leads me to procrastinate at times. Nobody is perfect except for God-wonderful reminder.
    3315 days ago
    Great blog! I voted for it. I needed your message today. Thanks. -Marsha
    3315 days ago
    I love the blog title--it's all so true! I comfort myself with this little mantra, "Perfect is the enemy of Good Enough."

    I really like this idea and can adopt it, for sure! "When we set the goals we should allow margin, like "I know I can usually fit in 45 minutes of exercise/day but I'll plan on 30 minutes and do more if I enjoy it that day,""
    3315 days ago
    Thanks for sharing!
    I'm a perfectionist myself, and must remember this.
    3315 days ago
  • no profile photo CD10259955
    When I was learning to quilt, I was told by a very wise person that no quilt is perfect - only GOD can create perfection! It took the pressure off to make a perfect quilt. I have gotten better about applying this "rule" to other areas of my life, but still have a tendency to beat myself up on occasion. Thanks for the reminder! I'll try to be better in 2012!
    3316 days ago
    Too true! I have a perfectionist streak that is difficult to handle at times. Thanks for reminding me that I shouldn't expect it of myself. I needed to hear that tonight!
    3316 days ago
    Oh, wow, do I agree with this, B! I used to tell my daughter (who like her daddy tends to be a perfectionist) that there was only one perfect person who ever walked this earth and we nailed him to a cross for it. I was a perfectionist until i decided that it was a pretty arrogant way to live. Now, i do the best i can with what i have on the day i am given. I sleep well and forgive my lapses, leaving me smiling most of the time.
    3316 days ago
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