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Rainbow Baby

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

People have asked me this question before and I searched and searched all over to find the best meaning I could for a "Rainbow Baby."
This is what I found.....

"Rainbow Babies" is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn't mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy and hope.

I think that's a pretty good definition of what a rainbow baby means.

I had my first ob visit and everything was great! The baby's heartbeat is now up to 156 bpm and he/she is measuring one week ahead of schedule. I"m 7 weeks 3 days and the baby is 8 weeks 1 day. The doctor was really happy with everything so far and went through the plans for this pregnancy. I will be induced at 35 weeks at the latest and will be induced earlier if necessary. At 28 weeks I will be given steroids for the baby's lungs to develop in time for the pre-mature delivery. I will be going for weekly ultrasounds, blood tests and blood pressure checks. I feel really comfortable with their plan and I know they will take good care of me. I will also be admitted into hospital so I can be closely monitored in my third trimester. At least the hospital internet doesn't block Sparkpeople!! I will be working until 26 or 27 weeks unless the doctor asks me to stop earlier. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

I've been feeling sicker which makes me really really happy. I have a food aversion to eating in general, LOL, and I have a headache constantly which my doctor reassured me is just a good sign that my estrogen levels are good and are not an early sign of pre-eclampsia. Some days the morning sickness is really bad and I"m completely relaxed and positive about the pregnancy and then other days I don't feel anything at all and start taking pregnancy tests and comparing the colour of the lines and timing how quickly they get dark. LOL But it's reassuring to know that I have had several days without sickness that have had me worried sick, but her the baby is thriving away in my belly. I'll try to take comfort in that the next time I panic. Well, I'll try. LOL

Oh also, I have been trying to avoid well meaning family members and friends who keep asking me if I"m pregnant. Since I"m only 7 weeks I really want to wait if I can to tell people my news. Especially since my mother-in-law made a comment when I was pregnant with Emma that "everyone is counting on you this time, don't let us down" and then I lost her and felt even worse. So I"d really like to keep this a secret a little longer. What could I say that could divert the question without telling them I"m pregnant?

I have a picture to post later once my husband comes home to load it.
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    I think whenever you and your husband feel comfortable and ready...that's the right time to tell them. I always used responses like "Someday.." or "I am just feeling under the weather".

    I am so thrilled that everything is looking great for you dear! Will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers! Hope you have a wonderful CHRISTmas!
    2312 days ago
    I know I'm way behind, but I've been MIA for a few weeks. I'm so GLAD things are progressing well, my friend!!!! You have been in my thoughts and prayers.

    And I agree about your response to "Are you pregnant yet........." ...... either go with "We're enjoying working on it" or..........."Why are you I look it??" Either one stops most people................

    ........well, except those uncouth in-laws............... emoticon

    Keep us posted !! emoticon
    2316 days ago
    I feel so very happy for you. May God bless you and your husband; but most importantly, the BABY!!!!!
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    2317 days ago
    Jenna, I am so happy for you! My godmother and I are both praying for you. I will also be mrntioning you as a prayer intention for my 54-Day Rosary Novena group. You and your precious babies have touched my heart.

    My answer to "are you pregnant"? ~ All in God's time.

    God bless you and your beautiful family dear.
    2320 days ago
    Jenna, I'm so happy for you. I'm not sure if you remember me but my daughter was due the same day as Emma (11/22/10) and when I checked in to see your blogs after I had my daughter and saw that you lost her, well, I'm tearing up right now just thinking about it.
    I'm just so happy for you and this new baby that I know will be perfect and healthy.
    You're going to be such an amazing mom!
    Listen, if people are asking if you're prgnant and you don't want to tell them then just say no. It's ok to lie in this situation. And even the well meaning family and friends can sometimes say things that hurt. I learned that very well when my brother died at 27 years old back in 2008. Sometimes people say the wrong thing and hurt you deeply even when they don't mean to.
    Just remind yourself that's not their intention and move on to thinking of the good things. Like how amazing you and your husband will be as parents.
    I'm just so happy for you. Now I'm tearing up with joy!
    2321 days ago
  • ASL191
    How good are you keeping a lovely secret just for you. It is so great to hear that everything is looking so positive, you know you are always in my thoughts, loads less than 30 weeks now!
    2321 days ago
    That is a wonderful description of a Rainbow Baby. I may hopefully have to use it in the near future to explain to family/friends.

    Sorry your MIL said such a horrible thing to you. Hopefully she thinks before she speaks this time around.

    Glad everything is going so well, and should continue to do so.
    2321 days ago
  • JEWELS6170
    I too, waited at least 12 weeks to make an announcement. I understand that everyone just wants the best for you, but sometimes asking you if you are pregnant or telling you not to let anyone down can be construed as insensitive. No one wants this baby more than you, so they just need to know that they will be informed when the time is right. I agree that "We're working on it" is the best answer.

    It would be awesome if you could find an artist to do a drawing or painting of your angel babies and rainbow baby together. I have seen this done before and it was very touching.
    2321 days ago
    So happy that things are going so well! *hugs*
    2321 days ago
    I love that you're so happy!!! I'm just curious, though, how is it that you are 7 weeks 3 days and the baby is 8 weeks 1 day? Shouldn't you both be the same amount? (Yes, I know. I'm exposing my ignorance, but I'm among friends, right????)
    2321 days ago
    As you know, I'm just ecstatic for you! I can't wait! I also can't wait to find out the gender...I know it's early but have you thought of names yet?

    Everyone here has already given you great advice about what you could say to people when they ask if you're pregnant, but I'll add my two cents: maybe you could say something really vague, like "Hoping to be, one day," or something like that.
    2321 days ago
  • MRS.NG.06
    I would agree with the other commentor about telling all of them whenever they ask that "we are enjoying working on it"...nobody wants to touch that subject! I went until I was at least 12 weeks to tell anyone..let yourself enjoy the secret, its yours and yours alone to keep with your husband at this very special time.

    heheheh I am so happy everything is going well. Your subject lined scared me because if you've ever had a dog or cat, you know about the "rainbow bridge" and I was scared that this was the same thankful that it wasnt.

    It really seems like the medical staff is really on top of all of it and protecting you and the baby at all costs espicially with everything that has happened before. I would definitely take solace in that : )
    2321 days ago
  • SINGER73
    Rest assured that what you are going through when you don't feel the sickness is totally normal. I haven't met 1 pregnant woman who didn't do the same thing that you are doing.

    I probably told you this before but I had my baby at 35 weeks and he was just fine. No NICU and his lungs were perfect. He's 6 months old now and is just perfect.

    I also wanted to thank you. Your story with Emma was the reason I ended up in the hospital at 34 weeks and 5 days with my little guy. I listened to my body and knew that something wasn't right and even though I was afraid of just being a paranoid pregnant woman I went to the hospital and got monitored and they realized something wasn't right. They monitored me and I got so many ultrasounds in the 3 days before we decided to deliver him all I wanted to do was to get him out while he was still healthy or before anything went wrong. Your story showed how quickly things could turn. So thank you for being so open with your life and your quest to have a baby. I'm so right there with you during this pregnancy and I'm praying that God will give you the desire of your heart. emoticon
    2321 days ago
  • MUSIC66
    i am happy for you.
    2321 days ago
    I'd say something like, "We're working on it." :)

    I'm so so pleased to hear about your OB appointment. It sounds like you are in very good hands and they have a great plan for you!

    Keeping you in my prayers for the next 30 weeks or so, for sure!
    2321 days ago
    I wonder if that mother-in-law felt like a heel after what happened, or had she completely forgotten her comment. Even though, I have to say my husbands parents still sometimes make comments that they wishes we would have a second child. Grandparents do that... Though in your case her insensitivity put more pressure on you. I will try and keep you in my prayers, so keeping posting those blogs to remind me and to share how things are going.
    2321 days ago
    Felicidades. I'm elated that you got such great news today and a plan to ensure the safe birth of your child. As far as the people asking you about pregnancy, I think you should just tell them, "It would be great if I were" and leave it at that. :D I can't imagine people would prod further than that. emoticon
    2321 days ago
    emoticon I am so happy for you all! :)

    2321 days ago
  • BRENDAF761
    Such exciting news for you! Keeping you in my prayers! Just tell your family your hoping to give them good news soon! Have a great holiday! emoticon emoticon
    2321 days ago
    This is good news! I think I would just smile and say, " I'll let you know, be patient." (that way your not saying if you are or if your not) your just saying I'll let you know, lol Enjoy this time.


    2321 days ago
  • 22JAMIE
    So glad everything is going well.
    2321 days ago
    So excited for you! Continued prayers that your pregnancy will be uneventful. I agree that maybe a comment about letting them know when there is news to share is a good idea. I am so glad you can share here with us!
    2321 days ago
    How about saying something like "as soon as I have news to share you'll hear about it"? That way you're reserving to right to decide when it's appropriate to disclose but you're not lying either - just a thought.

    And I love the rainbow baby analogy; BTW do you think this baby has developed a colour preference yet?
    2322 days ago
    So exciting! Keep us updated on your little girl or boy!
    2322 days ago
    Big hugs Jenna, I'm rooting for you. Just say "I don't think so" or something similar, you don't have to disclose any more than you want to xx

    2322 days ago
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