12/09: Crisis Averted?
Friday, December 09, 2011
It is very difficult to work for someone who is/was your friend.
My friend got a supervisor job and when I was looking to change jobs, she contacted me and wanted me to come to work for her. We had worked together at another posting and had gotten on well, so I figured why not.
Here's why not. When you work for someone who is/was your friend (at least my friend), there is a complete lack of boundaries. When I am at work I want a boss. That means I want someone to tell me what my goals are for the day, assistance if something is malfunctioning, and the freedom to do the best job I can. Unfortunately, when my friend is around she wants to gossip about the other employees (some of whom I really feel she is unfair to), always puts the things I need at the bottom of her list because she figures I'll wait, and feels completely entitled to make attacks against my character.
Since I have been there, we have had multiple altercations. She has denied me a accident form when I smashed my hand in a machine (which by the way is my legal right) and when I went over her head to get one, she proceeded to bawl me out. When I defended my actions, she told me to shut up because she was talking and that if I wasn't so spoiled then maybe I would appreciate all she has done for me.
I thought I was appreciative. I show up and do the work. I don't complain. I get on with most of the people. Isn't taking the faith she had in hiring me seriously by working at the best of my ability appreciative? I'm sorry, but I don't like brown lipstick. And she know that. I do not have the energy or inclination to follow her around and tell her how wonderful she is and could I please clean her feet with my hair.
I wondered if I would have to leave this job that I have come to really love. Another friend advised me to make the decision to keep her as a boss or as a friend, but to realize that I couldn't have both. After careful consideration, I chose to keep my job and have not sought out my boss for anything other than work related issues. When she tries to get personal with me, I divert the conversation back to work. It seems awkward for both of us, but it is working.
It makes me sad though. I was hurt by her behavior and attitude. It was disheartening to think that she thought so low of me. More than anything, I hated losing friend.