Why can't I get my act together

Friday, December 02, 2011

Here I am again... yes I am back but nothing has changed. Just don't know why I can't get my act together? I come back here... look at everyone's profile and pics and see that everyone has struggles but they keep pluggin away. Me... I give up. I become frustrated and just give up. The funny thing is I am not like that in anything else I do. I am organized, I follow through on things, I am successful at work, home and with my kids, but when it comes to my weight I see a huge mountain and just can't start the climb. At some point in time things have to change? I can't keep on going this way. ughhh so frustrated with myself....
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  • JBEST73
    I literally just searched these words! I feel the same way. I like the advice of adding things not taking them away. I am all of those things. Emotional eater, social eater, I am funny so I can charm people with my personality. I know what my defense mechanisms are but still have issues letting them go and allowing myself to be happy and healthy. I preach to my kids and provide them with healthy choices but do not always practice what I preach. I am tired of feeling like a hypocrite and a failure. I know that I am strong and amazing so why do I continue to allow myself to fail? It is such an addiction for me. I need and am looking for Spark friends to help motivate me and keep me accountable. Thanks for posting this... I needed to know that I am not alone.
    1742 days ago
    I used to sabatoge my efforst because I didn't see it as a lifestyle change. It was a quick fix and one that I too easily was distracted from.

    This time, you're right. Its' about plugging away at it, because it's daily life. I chose to ADD things instead of taking them away. Simple, little things that I could do. Like the ten minutes a day of exercise. I had to brainstorm and get OUT of my head that exercise meant going to the gym. Sometimes it meant walking out the door and going 5 minutes and coming back, or doing one of the ten minute SP videos that include cool down's and stretching in those ten minutes. I was my own worst enemy making things harder than they had to be. I added vegetables. First I had to convince myself that that was a problem by logging my food. I honestly thought I ate more veggies than I do. I also added more fiber. I'm sure you will find something that will work for you. I spent a lot of time reading blogs and spark pages noticing what people did who succeeded before I decided I could do them. We are all so different. I loved when I read "always failing at your goals? Change your goals." Remember to reward yourself for your successes rather than beat yourself up for your failures. We don't fail in SP, we just keep on practicing until we get it right!
    2336 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel. I had this exact same conversation with a co-worker recently...we are both smart, successful, organized women but our weight is something we have never been able to get control over.

    My advice is to just do it. Every time I decide to get serious and lose weight it's the build up to "Day 1" that causes me a lot of anxiety and makes me doubt myself. Once I actually start the diet it's really not that bad, besides, once you start seeing results you will be so proud of yourself that you won't want to stop. What helps me get through rough days is having a goal. For me it's to be in a "normal" swim suit by spring break for our family vacation. I visualize what I will look like and how I will feel when I've reached that goal. The end goal is so tangible, at least in my mind, so I'm grabbing hold of it and not letting go.
    2336 days ago
    Oh another similarity - the wedding ring goal!! I can't wear my wedding ring either - I had to CUT mine off before an MRI last year :( I am not getting it fixed until I am at my goal weight and staying there.

    2337 days ago
    Are you an emotional eater? If you take away food as a way to soothe yourself and not replace it with something else you will keep going back to it. It's a habit either learned early on or something you created. Here is a book I am using: 50 ways to self-soothe yourself with out food by Suan Albers.
    If setting big goal is to much to change at once. Start small and work your way up. It will still get you to your goals.

    Okay your frustrated: Make a food plan and set a time every day to workout. Yes! some days you won't want to do it but do it anyway. You will kick in the happy hormones and be glad you did. Talk to yourself in the same kind way you do your kids.

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    2337 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/2/2011 10:57:24 AM
    Keep your head up!
    2337 days ago
    I think you are me. Or I am you.

    I can't get my act together either - I just wrote my own "I'm frustrated with myself" blog (skipping record) a few days ago.

    That's not the only way we are alike though - I visited your spark page and I ALSO gained no more than 20 pounds per pregnancy, and lost that weight quickly (I left the hospital in pre-pregnancy jeans once!) but then packed it back on before baby's first birthday.

    Even our kids ages are close (mine are 12, 9 & 3 - and an angel who would have been 7 this past spring)

    I share your frustration - but that fact that you are here (and me too!) means that you haven't quit - so you haven't failed. Start over as many times as you need to, because starting over means you haven't given up, even if you paused in your journey. You will only have failed when you DON'T start over.

    We can do this!
    2337 days ago
  • DCGAL9
    I know how you feel. But tomorrow's another day...start small and take it from there. That's what I'm telling myself and hoping I'll take my own advice. "Take my advice, I'm not using it!"

    Hang in there - don't beat yourself up.
    2337 days ago
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