Stress Journal - First Entry

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Stress, what can I say that hasn't already been said?

Okay, so I've got a grandmother who's 88 and has pancreatic cancer. I've got a friend who doesn't get along with my grandmother, and she doesn't like him, either. They both fuss about each other all the time.

They don't seem to realize, or care, that they're causing me endless stress. I have tried to get them to work together, but let's face it, they won't cooperate with me let alone each other.

Today I had to endure endless fussing from my grandmother. If she couldn't get me to argue about one thing, she tried another. This went on from the time she woke up till she went to sleep.

I know she's sick. But, she hasn't really shown any symptoms. She says she's not in pain. She's just angry that she can't have everything her way.

Today I dealt with the stress by not arguing with her. I didn't say anything, I just ignored it. If she demanded something, I did it right then. Unfortunately, she wasn't happy with that. What she really wanted was the argument. Go figure!

I really am trying. I have a temper, but I'm trying to keep it in check.

Meditation and prayer seem to help.
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    Thanks to both of you for your support. I know I can handle the situation, it just gets hard sometimes.
    3251 days ago
    Dealing with negative people is so hard and so exhausting!! They are energy suckers! I used to put an invisible bubble around myself everytime I went to see my sister. Not giving in to the arguement is the way. It takes time to show them you wont go there. There are some great books out there on codependency that help with that sort of thing.
    Im wishing you the very best. Try to use it as a motivator to make yourself better. Getting healthier will make it easier to deal with. you will think Im crazy (and I am), but I would do really wierd stuff Like put my hand out in a stop sign position and start singing "STOP IN THE NAME OF LOVE - BEFORE YOU BREAK MY HEART!!" She would get so thrown off she didnt know what to do!!! Eventurally she started laughing and became happier! emoticon emoticon
    I kind of made it a game to see how I could redirect her.
    Sorry I rambled.
    Thank you so much for all the support!!
    3256 days ago
  • _JODI404
    That sounds like a tough situation. She may try hard to get you to argue, but I think not giving in to one is the best choice... eventually maybe she will see you are solid in holding your ground and tone it down.

    Hang in there! Sending positive thoughts your way!
    3257 days ago
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