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The glue and my hero...

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Through the years, my mother was the glue that held the family unit together. No matter where our lives led us, mom knew what each of us was doing and would report to the others what was going on in each others lives.

My mother was a care-giver....always ready and willing to help others. She cared for sick relatives; worked at church as a mentor, spiritual leader, or just answered phones; she often volunteered her time at the hospital, with VEAP and was always oncall at a moments notice. Everyone could count on her to lend a helping hand, wherever the need arose.

My father was my hero ~ he was everything I ever hoped to be!! He was a hard-working carpenter, provider, husband, father, mentor, teacher, Bible study leader, writer and much more. After retiring from being a Carpenter Superintendent, you could often find him volunteering his time with Habitat for Humanity or working in the hospitals print shop.

When my parents were in their early 50's they spent two years working in the Peace Corp. They were stationed in Bathurst, Gambia (now called Banjul). They learned the language and worked with the people of that town. What an experience!!

My mom taught school during the first year and then worked with two French speaking Anglican priests, teaching them English. My dad worked for the Public Works Department teaching construction techniques to improve their lives.

They even went back-packing through Europe on their way home. They traveled through 9 countries in a short time frame.

I don't think I ever realized just HOW strong their love was for each other until after my mother died. Dad tried to fit in at the nursing home, but each time we talked with him - you knew he missed mom more & more each day.

Just 18 short days after my mother died ~ my father followed her. I think that their love for each other was SO strong - that where one went, the other just naturally followed. I'm learning to be at Peace with this idea.

I found a favorite, younger version of my parents....they always had a smile on their faces and mother always had that twinkle in her eye. The only thing important was that they were "together".

Dorothy - 16 Jan 1925 to 5 Nov 2011
Barley - 17 May 1920 to 23 Nov 2011

One of my wonderful Spark friends - SAMI199, sent me a link. This fits my parents perfectly and fits my thoughts of them, but I warn you....you might need a hanky!!

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    I just came across this blog from earlier. I lost my dad in August, and my mom is pretty lost without him. I think it's wonderful when they pass away so close because they couldn't stand to be apart. Hard for you, though. You have my sincere condolences for your loss. This will be a tough holiday season without them, but try to remember that this is our purpose. To live and die, and pass on to eternal life with our Savior. Peace to you, my friend! emoticon
    2719 days ago
    It sounds like they were one of those couples we are all so thankful walked this earth and shared their spirit with us. May all those wonderful memories sustain you this week as you go through the last things you can do for them on this earth and give you peace in the coming months.
    2731 days ago
    Wow - what an amazing tribute - in the Chinese culture someone who lived such a long life would result in he village celebrating their life and all the memories they bestowed on whom they interacted with.

    I know you feel such a deep loss on their passing but remembering their lives and finding such a great photo will remind of the impact they had not only on your life but it sounds like many others.

    My thoughts are with you at this time.
    2732 days ago
    Your parents are truly impressive figures in their own right. You are blessed to be capable of carrying on their memories and hopes for the future. Thank you for sharing them with us!
    2733 days ago
  • SAMI199
    What a wonderful tribute to your amazing parents! Thank you for letting us get to ''Know" them -just a little. I'm sure they are very pleased...

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    2734 days ago
    You were very fortunate to have such loving and giving parents for so long! My condolences on the loss of your parents. It will be difficult for your this holiday season but, as SUSIEPH1 said, they are together!

    2734 days ago
    OOh Anne, What a lovely tribute to your parents ...
    They are still together and will be to the end of time !!
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    2734 days ago
    What a tribute to your parents. emoticon
    2734 days ago
    Very touchy story. emoticon
    2734 days ago
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