11/03: The Best Advice
Thursday, November 03, 2011
One of the girls at work asked me today if I had a tip to help her lose ten pounds. I thought about all I had learned on Spark People and found the one I figured would be easiest to incorporate. I told her that studies have found that people who eat breakfast are more successful.
This might seem like a fairly boring anecdote but it's actually a little shocking. She said no. She couldn't do that.
I know I just looked at her for a minute.
It blows my mind a little to hear someone say that she couldn't eat breakfast to lose ten pounds. She's told me several times that she gets up two hours before she leaves for work, sits at her table, drinks coffee and smokes cigarettes. She says she smokes a half a pack before she even gets dressed. But she can't eat breakfast.
It is very frustrating to hear people talk about their desire to change something, but when it comes down to it they are unwilling to change one little thing. And it's not just losing weight. I hear people say they would like to save money, yet they order lunch everyday and won't work a minute over their scheduled hours.
Change is frightening and I understand that. I remember the uncertainty of looking at a piece of whole grain pasta and thinking "I don't know about this. It doesn't look right!" and you don't even want to know about the imaginary conversation I had with asparagus. And while I'm confessing, I don't have a trainer, but there is someone I yell at when I'm in the hardest part of my workout.
The point of this whole thing is she should eat the breakfast. Or she could not eat candy all day. Or she could go for a walk. Or she could not watch a hundred hours of TV a week. The point is that if she wants something in her life to change then she has to change something in her life and that's the best advice I can give her. After all, it was the best advice someone ever gave me and in passing it along, I see the truth of it so much more clearly.