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My mom got married

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

My mother has gotten remarried. I have never seen her so happy. I can't believe it. She's been cheated on, used and sucked dry. For years that's how her relationships have been. I'm so happy for her, I'm scared to death, too.

My new stepfather is great, but I'm still nervous. Growing up all I've known was my mother getting hurt. So, even though I like this guy, I'm scared. Ugh.

I'm mostly happy though. My mom deserves this. She deserves to have someone in her life that treats her well, and isn't going to suck her dry. She deserves to feel safe and happy. I want this to be it for her. I don't think the man would have married her if he had any ill intentions. His family was way too involved in the wedding for him to be faking. So I have some confidence there. I really do.

Part of me, though, and this is so very selfish....feels like I lost my mom a little. I've been a itty bitty jealous this past year of the lack of time I get with her. My new sister sees her more.....ugh. I'm such a child.

I love my mom so very much. I AM happy. Truely I am. I love my new Dad and my new sister. They are fantastic, they truely are.
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  • SLENDERELLA61
    It's great that you share your mom's joy!! It's normal that you still have a few concerns for her well being AND it's normal to feel a bit jealous. Good for you for expressing it. Much better than eating to bury those emotions you don't want. Keep up the healthy thinking!!
    2586 days ago
  • PEGGYANNSCH
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    2587 days ago
  • AQUAGIRL08
    I think it's good that you're holding a little bit back. It just means that you care for your mother. Remember that trust is earned over time. Perhaps you've given it too freely to her partners in the past and this time you are being more cautious for her sake. That isn't a bad thing unless it interferes with your relationship with your mother and your new family. You might want to take your mom aside and explain to her what your feelings are and let her know that things will improve over time. Remember the saying, "once burned, twice shy". That applies here. You're doing it out of love and I'm sure she will understand. About the attention thing, my mother was married to a man with 3 children in her last marriage. I was very jealous of all of the time spent with his 3 kids so I made sure that when Mom and I had plans that I never cancelled out and I made the most of our time together.
    2589 days ago
  • TBRANCH2
    Your feelings are natural and you shouldn't feel guilty! Plus, whether you are the daughter, mother or friend, there is ALWAYS going to be that bit of "doubt & wariness" for anyone that you love to be getting married! It, too, is natural. It takes time to accept all the aspects of a loved one's new "journey" in their life!
    Congrats!
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    Ther
    esa
    2590 days ago
  • no profile photo GRAMPIAN
    Every happiness to your mother. emoticon
    2591 days ago
  • MZMELISSA2007
    That is awesome. I wish you and your family the best. Congrats to your mother =)
    2591 days ago
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