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Just one of those rotten days

Tuesday, October 04, 2011

You know how some days are just awful, no matter what you do? This morning was one of those.

I have a student in my last class who simply doesn't behave. I knew both of her parents, and uncles on both sides of the family - major family dysfunction of both sides, which of course goes from generation to generation.

This child has been escalating in her behavior problems, and the assistant principal who was dealing with her has been transferred to another school. So yesterday afternoon, when I carried a referral upstairs (the girl asked to go to the nurse, spent 30 minutes out of class, and never brought a note - I checked, she never went to the nurse) the principal and assistant principal had me going back and forth, in a power struggle as to who was taking over this student (and the academic team). The principal nearly yelled at me with a "I'm not playing that with you." Not that I was playing anything, I just felt that this student's behavior needed to be dealt with at a higher level than I could accomplish. (This was just the most recent issue.)

So this morning, I took the referral upstairs - and again the assistant principal refused to deal with it. I tried talking to the team chairperson, but she was rushing to a meeting and couldn't be bothered. So as she walked into the principal's office, I leaned in and put the paper on his desk (which other people have done when I'm in his office) - and he was ticked off about other stuff and told me that was inappropriate. I went to do other stuff, returned to apologize - and he again told me how unprofessional that was, on and on, and I finally broke down and nearly crying told him he yelled at me yesterday and today when I was just trying to find someone to deal with this problem student, and that everyone was passing the buck and I felt her behavior was such that I couldn't ignore it. He eventually turned around his actions to pacify me, and later called in the student. Plus later I printed out my notes about her behavior, and he could see what I've been dealing with for the 5 weeks of school.

And yes, I probably got more upset than I needed to - but when I'm trying to take care of an escalating problem, I don't want to get caught between two people's power struggle and then get yelled at when I haven't even done anything!

So I think I'll go home and hang out. Well, after I do my errands.

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    I will admit I made coffee cake (with yogurt, not sour cream, and half whole wheat flour) and had a slice for dinner. The rest will go with me for an afterschool meeting Wed.
    2388 days ago
    You've got guts. Letting the student create a disruption is not just unfair to you, it's grossly unfair to the other students in the class who I'm sure cherish your teaching.

    If crying works, then work it, and without apology!! Yeah!! The principal is paid the big bucks to deal with this stuff!!

    And now, I hope you've had a lovely relaxing evening with your DH waiting on you hand and foot and maybe pouring you a glass of red wine!! As you deserve!
    2389 days ago
    Myrna, you crack me up! I needed that laugh!
    2389 days ago
    Tough problem to deal with - and that student is lucky to have you. Maybe the family dysfunction can be brought to an end.
    2389 days ago
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    Always find a man, and always cry. problem will be solved very quickly. never bother going to a woman who is in a higher position than you are.. She will only be thinking of herself and will always pass the buck so she looks good and you look bad.
    2389 days ago
    I admire teachers who will take a stand and not let the principles and others walk over them for trying to do what is right for a student that has problems. I have a daughter who is a teacher & deals with some of the same things everyday.
    God Bless you and all teachers who are out there trying to help our youth.
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    2389 days ago
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