Just needing to vent - could definitely use some advice please
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Ex's suck. Big time suck. My ex especially. I'd like to cut off all his fingers and shove them far up his butt.
Tonight seems to be a bad night. This jerk had to be taken to court because after 3 years of being broken up he was spending child support money we had agreed on, on sh!t for himself, a new boat, a new deck, quads, xbox kinect, ps3 all kinds of freakin toys instead of paying his support. So I took his stupid butt to court where he was told to pay DOUBLE what he was paying before (btw what's double of nothing??) Okay told to pay double of what he'd SOMETIMES pay before. COURT ENFORCED.
Now this SOB is whining cuz he "can't afford it" Give me a f'ing break.
Every time my kids go spend half the summer with him they come back with stories of how much fun they had there. Which is good.. for once he's actually paying attention to them. But now because we're not as "rich" as he is and we don't have a "big cool vehicle" like he does or quads or a trampoline or a freakin god knows what they'll find to complain about next all I hear constantly is how they can't wait til they go there next cuz it's " so much funner at dad's"
It just hurts a lot because we're trying our best. Jason works his f'in bag off and yea I'm a stay at home mom cuz I live in a stupid town of 500 stupid people and 3 stupid businesses who only hire part time and if I do that the money I make is just gonna go to child care so I might as well just still be a stay at home mom. Plus being home means I can run my kids to whatever they need to go to. Friends houses, dance classes, hockey practice, school events.
Explain that to the kids though and they turn it around and tell their dad who just tells them I'm lazy which they in turn tell me. Thanks for that.
How do I compete? What am I supposed to do when all I can see in the future is him gently convincing them how much cooler it would be to live with him instead of with their lazy, fat mom who's always broke and can't afford sh!t ever. I honestly don't know what to do but it feels pretty unfair.