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Are you ever lectured from the grave?

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

I am writing this for one of my challenges I am involved in. We are supposed to write about some of the struggles we have that affects our eating.

I think one of the things that impacted me go way back to my childhood. I was raised as I know a lot of you were to clean our plates emoticon. If I heard the statement, " You eat all of that food, Don't you know their are kids starving all over the world that would love to be able to eat that liver, okra, spinach," etc. Now I knew that couldn't be true because no one in their right minds would eat boiled liver. ( Sorry Mom ) Now that I am grown up I have learned to cook and eat most any thing and I enjoy it, but I still belong to the clean blue plate special society. It recently hit me just how much that was drilled into me.
Take for instance going to a buffet. emoticon If I pay $6.95 for food then I want to get my moneys worth. Don't we all? So I load up my plate with healthy emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon fish, veggies and fruit! See how healthy I eat. But wait a minute, about half way through I feel this little nudging in my stomach. A feeling I am not at all familiar with. Now most people know that it means, tank is full, Don't send anything else down that shoote or you will really be sorry. My brain does not understand the workings of a body and just keeps on eating. It is healthy, Right? It took hard earned money to get this in front of me and after all, people all over the world ------------ GET THE DRIFT? emoticon emoticon emoticon

My warning system works great now but my ability to stop and shove my plate away is not. Yes I know I will be miserable later, Yes I understand that 1 cup if rice is more than enough for me to eat but they sent out 2 cups, so I better eat it, cause I paid for it and I might be hungry later.

I have come a long way on this journey we are on. I almost always make healthy choices. I am moving more and I know that I will take this weigh off eventually. But how do I take my Mom's words that are still lecturing me from the grave, " Now Gail, Clean your plate"



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  • KATHYBFIT
    Gail, I have the exact same problem as that is word for word how I was raised! I too know better now, but still have issues with feeling compelled to "clean my plate" regardless of how I feel. I have to make a conscious effort to force myself to leave something on my plate or it doesn't happen. Perhaps serving up smaller portions is what I should be doing I guess. Keep working at it hun, and you will make New Habits for yourself. emoticon emoticon
    emoticon Kathy
    2607 days ago
  • BOOBERRY
    Oh very true. that is what my hubby is struggling with the DR told him " NO YOU DON"T HAVE TO CLEAN IT " leave it or throw some out.
    I went to a catholic school and my oh my how the nuns lay it on you thick use to tell you eat everything there is people that don't have any thing to eat. I remember we use to sneak our beet, spinach ect in the milk carton and pray they wouldn't find it. LOL Brenda
    2609 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/25/2011 6:49:38 PM
  • IOWAGRAMMA
    Great comments, Gail! I have an idea that many of our mothers were children of the depression and there was no such thing as too much food for them. What I never learned to do was to put smaller portions on my plate to begin with so I could eat it all and have a clean plate and not be eating too much in the process. If I had ever learned that skill I probably wouldnt' be where I am today. On the other hand, I never would have met you!! Thank you for your wisdom and your comments! Jeannie
    2609 days ago
  • RJSAMS
    It has taken me a long time to get to the point where I can throw away food on my plate. And I still haven't gotten over the "eyes bigger than my stomach" thing--I can't seem to get portions right, but at least now I can throw away what I don't eat.

    And I agree with Amybelles--I stay away from buffets for that very reason. They are trouble for me.
    2609 days ago
  • SHERRY666
    I GREW UP THE SAME WAY GAIL...... EAT EVERYTHING ON YOUR PLATE..... BUT I HATED VEGGIES.... ALL KINDS.. I WOULD TRY ANYTHING TO NOT EAT THEM.... I REMEMBER SITTING AT OUR KITCHEN TABLE WHEN EVERYONE ELSE HAD GONE... FINISHED THEIR MEAL.. AND THERE I SIT WITH MY VEGGIES..... I TRIED DOWNING THEM WITH MILK AND RUNNING TO THE BATHROOM TO SPIT IT OUT.... GOT CAUGHT AT EVERYTHING I TRIED....... ONCE I GOT MARRIED AND LEFT HOME..... I DIDN'T HAVE VEGGIES IN MY HOME,...... MAYBE CORN... BUT SINCE I STARTED SPARKS I HAVE LEARNT TO EAT VEGGIES... AND LIKE THEM.. AND HAVE TRIED MANY KINDS SINCE THEN.. BUT MANY TIMES I'M FULL BUT FINISH MY PLATE STILL TO THIS DAY.....
    2609 days ago
  • VTMAID
    I grew up the same way, but my kids brought me to my senses when they were little.
    When I mentioned the "starving children in China", my middle daughter who was about 4 at the time said "what about the starving children right here in Wilmington (where we lived at the time), can't we invite them over and share?"
    Now, that's one smart kid!
    Karen from VT emoticon emoticon
    2609 days ago
  • JOANOFSPARK
    Oh, boy, can I relate to that... both my mother and grandma who lived with us reminded of those starving children periodically, so how could we possibly not eat all that food, even though I never did get the connection.......after all, what did what I ate have to do with them; whether I cleaned my plate or not would not help them in the least, but yeah, I still can hear them say that. I have gotten better about it, though, and if that stomach trigger goes off, I quit eating, and it is usually much sooner than it was growing up.

    Buffets scare me....though I've gotten better about those as well.......just being more selective no matter what I pay for it......and only get what I really, really want..Just because it is on the buffet doesn't mean that I have to try it or even eat it.
    2609 days ago
  • JILL313
    Wonderful Blog Gail, My Mom also was an Official in the Clean Plate Club so I had to eat everything on my plate. Even when I was first married she always worried I wasn't eating enough. It's no wonder in years to come eating like that and with the large portions I did become fat. I hate buffets as I have no willpower with all the food around--I'd rather pay a little more and be able to order something from the menu that is healthy--even then the portions are usually very large. You seem like you have a handle and retired from the Clean Plate Club and I'm working on it and hope it does get easier and easier. I tell myself are these excess calories better on me or in the trash?? Thankfully, I usually succeed in being just a little wasteful but healthier in the end.

    Hugs,

    Jill
    2609 days ago
  • SSKELTON1
    \as you i have been lectured to clean the plate....i found solice in learning to eat and eventually preparing just enough of something with no left overs. 4 people ..4 servings of each food.. i measure before cooking and have learned to stick to it. i have stopped going to the buffet type eateries... too tempting to over fill. still having trouble with diners CALCULATING JUST HOW MANY SERVINGS ARE ON MY PLATE...fill funny trying to leave some to take home...would just be wasteful i dont eat left overs...and dont have a dog any more...still working on this one
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    2609 days ago
  • JUDITHWITHROW
    Those buffets trip me up too. Food became a problem for me when my mom remarried. I had always been a stick of a kid, then I hit puberty and a "stranger" moved into our home. Two weeks after mom remarried, we moved from Houston to Chicago. Meals became a time to hide from all the stress. I was still thin until after college but the food as a reward and escape issue started during those middle school years. Childhood is so powerful.
    Judith
    2610 days ago
  • MADKAPKID
    I think many of use had to clean our plates so those starving childen in china wouldn't feel bad.....of course, HOW ME eating was going to help them I never did figure out. LOL Like you I try to make healthy choices...and at home its easy to portion control. Eating out is harder to do....BUT, I am working on it. GREAT BLOG .....thank you for sharing. Have a joy filled day,Karen emoticon
    2610 days ago
  • ESILBO
    emoticon SAME HERE...AND ALSO THE... DON T WORRY ABOUT, WHATEVER IT WAS...HAVE SOME CAKE YOU LL FORGET ABOUT IT... OR GOOD FOR YOU LISE YOU DID GOOD, LETS CELEBRATE WITH CAKE AND SO ON...
    I THINK IT WAS THE ONLY WAY FOR THEM TO SHOW THEIR FEELINGS, WE ARE LUCKY TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS OURS RIGHT HERE AT SP...
    GREAT BLOG SWEETIE
    LOVE
    LISE
    2610 days ago
  • SUSIEPH1
    Yes Gail I so agree with you ..I was brought up that way too .
    but now my plan when we eat out is just a healthy Entrée .. and a side salad if needed
    Works really well for me .
    If itsa buffet I use the smallest plate available or have even been known to have my own little plate tucked away in my handbag.
    We can bet this .... You and I, We are strong enough to find ways to suit us ..

    Have fun thinking up ways to keep that greedy belly from telling you it needs more!!
    Once your stomach shrinks you will not get that hungry belly feeling at all .

    Love and Hugs Susie
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    2610 days ago
  • AMYBELLES
    Changing habits we formed from childhood is so hard to do! I also belonged to the Clean Plate Club! Recently I was reading a book called If I Am So Smart, Why Can't I Lose Weight, and in one of the chapters the author talks about wasting food - about how we are taught not to waste food in the garbage, but to waste it on our bodies instead. She says that either way it is wasted, so you shouldn't feel guilty when you leave food on your plate. I also am trying to practice mindful eating and paying attention to what my body is telling me while I'm eating and when I have had enough. It sure isn't easy, but I think if we are aware of what we are doing, that's the first step. And staying away from buffets completely! emoticon emoticon
    2610 days ago
  • KARENDEE4
    Oh my! The Buffet was one I heard a lot. My Mom made me eat as much as I could. She also did the same.

    I see now a lot of my eating habits were formed as a child. I also got put on their fad diets too and I was actually skinny as a child. I never learned to eat properly.

    I take some of the responsibility because I had plenty of time to change my ways.
    Karen
    2610 days ago
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