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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

It gives me a good chuckle when I see an advertisement like this; whether it be TV, Magazine, Billboard - one thing is for sure: What a LOAD!

Our society is somehow conditioned to expect women to look like this:

I'm NEVER going to be that skinny. EVER.

And hey - I'm just as much to blame. I define the perfect weight as having a gap between your thighs, arms with zero fat, and 6-pack abs. Oy. No wonder so many people fail at weight loss (myself included)

Rewind to yesterday. This crazy person came out in me again..

A few stressors at work, guilt because I didn't work out, and I'm thinking all sorts of negative thoughts. Add in changing when I got home into a pair of jeans that fit a little snug and I was nearly in tears.

So I start yelling (not *at* my husband, just in his general vicinity) "HOW AM I NOT LOSING WEIGHT?! I RUN 3 MILES A DAY. I EAT LESS THAN 1500 CALORIES A DAY. I SPEND HOURS AT THE GYM!?!!?!!"

And he responds with "Well I've lost weight. Don't I look good?"
At this point, I was on the verge of "Hello, Mallory. Welcome to the nut-house!"
Seriously, do men listen to the words that come out of their mouths?
I reply "Well isn't that just GREAT for you?!"

Don't get me wrong, I am ecstatic for him. He has been working hard (just getting him to the gym was a miracle in itself), but not gonna lie - *probably* not the best time to bring up his achievements - what with me being on the edge of a mental breakdown and all.

I wish there was a happy ending to my night last night, but there wasn't. I didn't eat terrible (maybe went over 1400 calories) but I didn't get a run in and I felt like crap. I wanted a beer, but convinced myself otherwise. I sat on the couch all night and watched reruns of HIMYM, and the new episode of "The Lying Game" (I have an addiction to ABC Family. It's a problem I'm working on..)

Went to bed early, got up late.

Fast-forward to today:

I considered jumping on the scale, but I just didn't want to start my day headed backwards on the "stay positive" scale.
I'm feeling skinny today. And refreshed.
This afternoon I'm going to get a kickass run in. And I'm going to do 30 minutes on the elliptical or bike. And do some ST. I have nothing on my schedule, so I want to stay at the gym longer than anyone. I want to see people walk in and see them leave 40 minutes later, knowing that I'm working my butt off.

Who cares if my jeans were snug? You know why? Because I could karate-kick someone to the ground with these leg muscles. And yeah, my arms may jiggle in the process, but I'm working on it. I don't have a gap between my thighs, but guess what? I NEVER WILL. Because I'm thick. That's how my body has *always been*.
And I like it that way. So does my husband. If someone doesn't like it, well - to tell you the truth, I straight-out don't care.

Yesterday's negative-Nancy attitude is gone. Today is a new day.

I've read the Spark about 10 times, and it still amazes me how I have to re-teach myself every day to not call myself an idiot (because I said something silly), or lazy (because I only worked out 45 minutes), or pathetic (because I gave in to a second skinny cow bar). It boggles my mind that living a healthy lifestyle is so...difficult. And then I remember that in the end - all of the fights with your inner food devil, lazy-ass, and bully are all worth it.
What you're left with after all of that is a sense of accomplishment. A feeling that you have mastered the art of fighting off our society's expectations, leaving thoughts of losing "20 pounds in one week" at the door, and doing it all for YOU.
Because you want to take bike rides with your kids and see them grow up healthy, strong and confident - never fearing for a moment that someone will bully them or put them down, because you've taught them that is unacceptable.

That is the type of generation I want to raise. One where the thoughts in their head are not how much weight they need to lose at the age of 10, but what sport they're going to play, or when their next recital is.

But it all starts with me. If I can't figure out how to practice what I preach, then there really is no point.

So here I am, today, continuing the healthy lifestyle that I've been struggling so diligently to maintain. And I will be here tomorrow.

See ya then, Sparkies. ;)
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    Right on!
    2496 days ago
    OMG I can't believe your husband actually said that. Men are clueless. LOL
    2496 days ago
    not only all that you have mentioned, but did you notice how HAPPY those models are? NOT! and really, there is nothing feminine about them at all, except for the clothes they are wearing.

    Got Get'Em Beautiful Woman!
    2496 days ago
    I love HIMYM, and my hubby is exactly the same way. Isn't it aggravating that men can lose so easily?!?!?
    2497 days ago
    I also have an addiction to ABC Family. What do they broadcast through their airwaves? Crack?

    And I see a gap between your thighs in that pictures. Just sayin. :)
    2497 days ago
    Thanks for the reminder. The old cliche holds true - slow and steady WINS the race!

    Also - I never want to look like that model. I want to be STRONG, doesn't she look like a strong gust of wind would break her? Not to be judgmental, I'm just sayin'!
    2497 days ago
    GREAT! Glad you woke up and felt better.. keep rockin that attitude.. and NO that model doesn't look healthy and fit.. but you sure do!
    Have a Rockin' day!
    2497 days ago
    Aw hang in there!! You are doing great and I love the attitude! take care!
    2497 days ago
    Let me get this straight: your husband came back with that comment, and you DIDN'T kill him? Wow. I'm impressed!

    Way to self-correct that attitude!
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    2497 days ago
    Great Blog. I asked myself the same question this morning... "How am I not losing weight". After being mad at myself and totally discouraged. I have decided to put the scale away for 3 weeks. I then turned that negative attitude into one of gratitude. I am grateful that I am eating healthy, I am grateful that I am training for a half-marathon, I am grateful... and the list goes on. Thanks for the reminder to "turn it around", I needed that reinforced today.
    2497 days ago
    2497 days ago
    emoticon stuff, Mallory!

    LOL - I just corrected myself 5 minutes ago for calling myself a "dummy" over nothing. So many poor habits and so hard to break!

    Thick girls unite! I am still struggling to come to terms with the fact that my thighs may never be smaller than they are (at 123 pounds, it seems unlikely), and chronic pain limiting my workout may leave me with tummy flab for years to come. But darn it, I am doing my best, working my hardest and the truth is, I have never been so active and well-fed in my entire 34 years. That counts for more than chasing the thigh gap! Now to just remember this from day to day ... emoticon
    2497 days ago
    WOW- you are an amazing woman :) I am glad you are being positive, it's easy to get into a negative spiral.
    2497 days ago
    2497 days ago
    I have stopped getting on the scale every day, every week and only get on once a month. I focus more on the inches that I drop and how things that haven't fit in years are starting to fit. You look AMAZING!!
    2497 days ago
    lol you look great! and i hear you! 6 mile, 2 days with p90x! up 3 lbs ! WHAT!! LOL whatever, scale never was my friend ;p
    2497 days ago
    Great blog! And you are looking terrific!
    2497 days ago
  • ALICIA214

    emoticon You go girl!!!
    2497 days ago
  • ELSAG83
    love it!!!!!! I feel this way a lot of the time and then I kick myself in the butt and say get to work ELSA and quit whinning. =) Happy Tuesday!
    2497 days ago
    Feeling good is the only measure in my book!

    Have you checked your calorie burn across a week? I actually changed my nutrition tracker to tell it I was burning 2000 calories a week (based on fitness tracker) and I've been able to drop just a bit (I'm right around goal weight so I don't need to drop much). Also, I feel less hungry!
    2497 days ago
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