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Trust, Once Lost, is Hard to Get Back

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

My DP has been gone for five days at a family reunion. I stayed home to watch our two dogs (one of whom is a "fearful dog.. Yesterday, I went to pick him up - without the dogs.

I turned on the AC in the den, brought in their water dish and closed the door. I knew our bigger dog was comfortable with doors, so she could get outside to do her "business" and out to the kitchen to wait for us to return.

Our little dog hasn't learned about doors yet, so I knew he couldn't get out and get into trouble.

Well, when I got home and let him out, he was timid and shaking. I blamed it on my DP who stormed into the house like a whirlwind. It wasn't his fault. As our dog cringed behind his chair and allowed my DP to pet him, I realized it was me he was afraid of now.

Whenever I approached, he ran. When he looked at me his tail was between his legs. I had lost his trust by locking him into a cage again. Yes it was a larger cage this time, but still a cage where he couldn't escape.

I can barely see these words through my tears. I never meant to hurt him. I told my DP that we needed to be home by 4:00 p.m. to feed the dogs. He said it wouldn't matter if we got home by 5:00 p.m. Turns out it was 5:30 p.m.

It took two months to earn his trust. Now I must start all over again. I feel like a bad "mommy".
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  • PEPPERCORN2
    Hi there, Oh don't feel bad, maybe next time you could put one of your shirts in there with him and a toy. I don't think you were bad. An he will come around and understand. Good luck and keep on smiling they know. emoticon emoticon P.S. I have a scared cat even after 2 years.lol she will run from me for no reason.
    3333 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    Just like Pavlov's dog, she will learn, gradually, that Mommy WILL let her out, that Mommy will not ignore her,, that being part of this household means rules and respect from pack leaders.
    Tough, but it works,, by putting her back in, gradually leaving her in longer,even when you are home, letting her know that she Will be let out,, when pack leader says so..
    still loved, but pack leader dictates..
    3408 days ago
  • CUPBUTTER
    Nancy your little dog will come around again. All he wants is your love. I know you have gave him plenty. He wil be ok. Just wait. You are not a bag Mommy. Hugs Barbara
    3423 days ago
  • GRAMVICKI
    Nancy, you are a good "mommy". You have done an amazing job with a dog who was caged up for over a year. The day may have set him back a little but I am sure he will come around.

    Hugs and Prayers, Vicki
    3424 days ago
  • RAINBOWFALLS
    I hope he comes back around soon. We cage trained our Huskey when we got her as a pup. It took a long time before we could truse her out of her cage during the day because of a smaller dog we had that she would torment. Her cage is her safe place, but we hardly ever have to close the door anymore. Only when visitors come because she is so hyper. emoticon
    3424 days ago
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