YOU ASKED ABOUT MY BROTHER
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
You asked if I was going to visit my brother in California and how he is doing.
First of all
They mean so much to me.
NOW THE REST OF THE STORY.
As you know my brother in California is ill. They found a mass on his pancreas. He said they said it was benign.
I asked how do they know it is benign.
He said only by doing a biopsy can they tell and it is a major surgery and I would have to be in the hospital 5 days so he didn't want to do it since he would have to leave his wife alone.
Then is wife was talking in the background and she is the one who wanted me to go out and told my brother to pay for me to go. He told her "well, we can afford to do that" so she thought he had sent the money for me to go.
(night) I called at 8:30 their time and since she goes to
at 8:00 he could talk.
He told me she has Alzheimer's and sometimes can be very nice and sometimes not so. I know what that is as my husband had the same thing for years before he died.
He told me he could not talk to me with her in the room as she would get angry if he told me as she thinks she is alright. He said he didn't want to put me through that and I realize it would be stressful for all three of us.
The funny thing is that I called one morning as I saw something on the internet about pancreatic cancer. She answered the phone as he was out. At first she did not know who I was and I said "I'm Henry's sister" Oh Irene are you here already she asked. I said no not yet. She said when are you coming? I said I don't know but just wanted to talk to Henry a minute to see how he is. Isn't it amazing she doesn't forget that. No doubt she thinks he sent the money and I'm just not going.
It breaks my
to know I may never see him again in this life.
She is older than he by 9 years and is already 90. He has difficulty restraining her though as she wants to climb and do things she shouldn't do.
He has to cook and the only thing she can do is the laundry.
So for you who
for those who are
this is for you
and for those who are just interested this is for you.