Thank you for your condolences!

Sunday, July 10, 2011

I've been trying for days to think of something to say, to thank all of you for your kind words and condolences. When I wrote that blog, it was mostly for myself, as a therapeutic exercise to express my feelings. I thought maybe a few people would read it. I never expected to get over 250 comments!

When I saw all the comments coming in, I started to feel guilty for posting that blog. I thought about how I probably made everyone feel sad. But I hope that everyone took a moment to think about everyone that they love, and I hope that you hold those people dear to your heart and realize what a precious gift love is.

This is obviously a very difficult time for me, and I want to thank you for all of your comments and messages, because I feel very grateful for your support. I'm taking things day-by-day. I miss my husband so much, and I feel lost without him. I have this overwhelming feeling of, "Well, now what am I supposed to do with my life?" But I know that eventually I will figure it out. In the meantime, I will put one foot in front of the other, and lean on my friends and family when I need to.

Thank you for your support!
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    It was a gift that you opened up the door a bit and let us in. Life - and loss - is what it's all about. Something we all have to face at one point or another. Hugs, Shelley
    3163 days ago
    You shouldn't feel guilty. You were letting your feelings out and that's important. It made me super sad to hear about someone going through that. My husband and I are about your age and I really don't know what I would do without him. He was home the day I read your post and I got off the computer almost immediately to spend some precious time with him.
    I hope you are staying strong and taking time to figure out your next step.
    3190 days ago
  • SHANNJ77
    Do not for one second feel guilty about posting that blog with all of your thoughts and feelings. While it is sad, it is something major in your life that you needed to share and we are all here to support you. It definitely reminded me how precious life is, and what a gift it is, and how important it is to tell and show my husband and kids and all those that I love, just how much they mean to me, every day. emoticon
    3190 days ago
    When I read your blog about your husband's passing, yes it saddened me.I couldn't imagine the pain you were going thru (and I'm sure still are) I was crying for awhile but I also did call the ones I loved and told them so. Life is very precious.Sometimes we forget that. So sad it takes something as terrible as your experience and loss to remind us.

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    3191 days ago
    I really can't even begin to know what to say except I am so sorry and I will be praying for you.

    I lost my Mom last year and a friend of mine suggested this to me. So, I would like to suggest you take a look at this and if you're interested, sign up for the daily emails. They helped me tremendously.


    I pray that you feel God's presence, peace, and His arms wrapped tightly around you.

    3193 days ago
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    Thinking of you regularly - and saw this posting. Sent you a SP mail when you posted the news.

    3193 days ago
    I was led to your previous blog about your husband's passing because a SparkFriend of mine commented on it...

    First of all, please let me extend my sincerest sympathy in your profound loss!!! emoticon emoticon

    It sounds like you have a very wise sister -- writing is an AWESOME way to help you start processing your grief! But be gentle with yourself -- it's going to take time....ALOT of time probably!

    Do NOT feel guilty for posting that blog!! Spark is all ABOUT support -- through the good times AND the bad!! Plus I would hope that your blog actually HELPED people appreciate their loved ones that ARE still in their lives!!!

    On a personal level, the blog about your experience when losing your husband served as a reminder for me to not take MY life for granted...! See, a year ago April, my husband found ME on the floor about 3 a.m. -- making "snoring sounds" and I stopped breathing...!!! He called 911 -- but thankfully the outcome was very different (obviously since I'm writing this!)... But it IS sobering to think of what MIGHT have been! I appreciated that during my hospitalization and for quite a while afterwards -- but the memory has faded... YOUR blog helped me REMEMBER to treasure each and EVERY day I have been blessed with...so THANK YOU for that!

    Take care of yourself and may you feel ALL the love and support surrounding you during this extremely difficult time in your life!! Prayers will be there with you -- even from people you don't know -- like myself!!! emoticon
    3193 days ago
    I am sure you will miss you husband for a long time. I know I missed my sweetheart for years and still miss him to this day. But I also remember not that he died but that he also lived and gave me a beautiful daughter to raise.
    We all have our own way of dealing with grief and pain. Praying for you as you take one day at a time...do what you have to do to get through each day. Sounds like writing is helping you. Allow yourself to take the necessary time to go through the grieving process. This is something you need to do. Know that we are here for you.
    Prayers, love and hugs,
    3193 days ago
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    Please never feel guilty about sharing. You need to process the grief and the pain, and sometimes writing is part of it. And as best as we can, we shall be here for you. You will get though this....somehow.

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    Of course you miss your husband!! What a terrible shock it must have been. One wonders why he was taken.. He was so young... it is such a terrible waste..
    I know you are strong, and eventually it will come to you what to do..
    Just take your time .. you need to grieve .
    Much love and Hugs Susie emoticon emoticon
    3194 days ago
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