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What do I deserve?

Thursday, June 23, 2011

It's funny that the universe is so steadfast in its ability to send to you what you need or should have! I haven't billed my new, private coaching practice as weight loss coaching yet I am attracting primarily clients who wish to lose weight. Because my practice is on the phone and my clients are from all over North America, they don't get to see me and don't usually know that I've lost weight. In fact, during 2 initial interview sessions, 2 separate clients said they had seen my photo on my webpage and didn't think I would understand their problem because I was so thin - interesting!! So the universe knows what it's doing and I am learning more and more about the struggles we all face with weight loss through the exploration of my clients' lives.

It has become part of my initial assessment to ask my clients what they believe they deserve. The answers astonish me! Ranging from physical abuse ("I deserve as swift kick in the you know where") to emotional abuse ("to be an unhappy sow apparently") with all kinds of other nasty stuff in between, no one has yet answered the question in a positive way. It makes a great jumping off point for coaching - if the Law of Attraction has any validity at all, is it any wonder that my clients are overweight and not happy about it? Getting my clients to create a new answer to that question has become a powerful tool!

So - here's how I'd like to answer the question for myself - throw in your own answers! I'd love to read them.

I deserve:

* to be proud of myself

* to look in a mirror with admiration

* to walk up a flight of stairs without huffing and puffing or turning bright red

* to go to bed at night feeling like I had treated myself with respect

* to feel my husband's arms around me - completely around me! And doubled up in back!

* to attend a doctor's appointment without fear

* to stand on top of Red Gap Pass in Glacier NP in Montana and feel my soul soar with the eagles

* to love myself more than I love food

* to watch my grandchildren grow up

* to enjoy my meals and not diminish that enjoyment by reget at what I had just eaten!

* to know my heart can withstand the pressure of a sustained cardiac workout

* to be told I look great (you can leave the "for your age" part off please!)

* to honour myself this minute - not starting Monday!

* to live my authentic life and to fulfill my life's purpose

* to dance and laugh and sing with joy

I deserve, quite simply, to be happy.

And you do too!



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  • BUTTER808FLY
    I like your list too. I liked all of it actually. I think I deserve good but I wonder deep down if I do really trully believe I deserve it. I've never really thought about "deserve" persay but more about "want". I don't think I've ever really thought about happiness being the goal of my life and pleasure as a possibliity. I just wanted out of the pain before but it's good to be on the flipside more and aiming torwards what my desires are as opposed to what my pitfalls are.
    3294 days ago
  • BAM0827
    Love your list and remind myself often that I deserve good things. I don't think I ever thought I deserved bad things - just never thought about getting good.

    I watched Oprah's last show (I didn't watch her often) and she was talking about how people need to believe they are worth these things. She said there's a difference between being worthy and thinking we deserve good things. I've been thinking a lot about that lately. I think I'm finally seeing the difference.
    3294 days ago
  • FATROCKSTAR
    Hey, you deserve all of that and more! Rock on, sister! Normandy
    3294 days ago
  • BETTERJULIA
    I love this blog! Thank you for sharing these 4 resonated with me - I could feel the desire to hike to the top and the pride my heart would swell with.

    *to feel my husband's arms around me - completely around me! And doubled up in back!

    * to stand on top of Red Gap Pass in Glacier NP in Montana and feel my soul soar with the eagles

    * to love myself more than I love food

    * to enjoy my meals and not diminish that enjoyment by reget at what I had just eaten!

    keep ROCKING it!

    3295 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    Love love love this blog (and "liked" it too!!).

    What do I deserve?

    I deserve to feel proud of the body I've achieved, comfortable in my clothes that fit, healthy, happy, well loved by my DH -- and more content with my work situation than I feel at the moment!! So, gotta focus some energies in that direction! And thank you for asking, which caused me to think about it!!
    3299 days ago
  • TERIANA
    I love this blog! Truly, "the universe" guided me to your page today.

    We are around the same age and coincidentally my goal is to get down to 135 pounds. I have been hovering 8-10 pounds away from this goal for several months...for whatever reasons it seems I cannot break through the 140 pound barrier. I can't figure out if it is a physical, spiritual or mental wall (or some combination of all three) keeping me from successfully reaching my goal. Regardless, I am not giving up.

    I am going to remind myself of the things that I deserve. Thanks so much.
    3299 days ago
  • KELPIE57
    I deserve to live my life to the full
    3300 days ago
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