Ever have one of those times?

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Ever have one of those times when things could not get any crazier and stressful and then somehow they do? This is what is happening with me right now. I can do stress...I can. What I have a hard time with is crazy stress coming from multiple places and hardly any free time. Sadly what I have been trying to do with my free time is ...well work. I have been trying to menu plan for the fall of all things. At night when everyone goes to bed. It isn't even summer time yet but this year it is important for me to have a full menu idea ready for the fall! I feel like everyday something has pulled me in some direction that I wasn't expecting.

What is going on? I guess this is what the mass exodus from Norway looks like the month before it happens. The country essentially empties out in July and so everyone is trying to cram every possible thing they can in now and I can hardly take it anymore! The barnehage (nursery school) is the worst for this. They have several events planned for the kids for each week of the month often times involving parent participation...or us giving money to them. Tonight is the big sleepover for all the kids leaving barnehage and going to first grade next year. This required us to lug a bunch of bedding, extra clothes and a pillow up the large hill to the barnehage so that Quin could have this fun night. Somehow though they are asking us to pick the children up at 12 noon tomorrow because they will be tired. Um...we send the kids to barnehage because we have to go to work. This is literally the third random thing that they have asked us to leave work early for this month. I guess I am being a curmudgeon about it all but I mean really!

While I am being a curmudgeon I will throw this one in there...all the parents whose kids are having their birthdays over the next two months are also having early birthday parties for their kids I know I sound really mean because kids should have a birthday party when their friends can attend but it is just adding pressure to this month! There was also the neighborhood block party a week ago. When I planned our brunch for last weekend I had no idea how packed this month was going to get. Honest.

Now for work. Bon Jovi has left the building. (That really didn't add to my stress but everyone seemed to think it was OK for me to name drop so I thought I would just throw that in there!...they didn't eat with us but they stayed at the hotel.) So annnnyyyyway...about work...I have really been feeling the loss of my assistant. We have been so busy with special parites...again I think it is that whole trying to get everything in thing. I work at a dizzying pace and still don't get it all done. Patrick has to pick up the slack and I feel kind of bad about that since he is living this hectic life too. I just find myself running out the door everyday blurting out things that I did not have time to do. I hate that. I am organized. I like to work several days ahead so I don't ever have to panic. I am not able to do that now and am only barely making it by the skin of my teeth. It is almost over but right now it is no fun. Next week we close but before that the UN will be eating with us for two days and of course they are requesting special desserts so rather than being able to move out our normal menu and then close, I have to produce two new desserts for the last two days we are open. A royal pain. OOOhhhhhh I AM a curmudgeon!

I really am. I actually yelled at someone today. Not exactly Gordon Ramsey style but more cause she just pissed me off style. (Maybe that IS Gordon Rqamsey style. I don't know.) I even used a certain word that I could get in trouble for...fortunately words like that don't sound so bad to Norwegians if you say them in English. It is not like me to be like that...well it kind of is...but I haven't had cause for it a long time and as I age I now can keep myself in check better. I did apologize to her and I did not feel very good about it all after but I am a person and I have flaws.

Last week my eating was terrible. Not well balance and two days I was off the charts with my calories and the scale did not move. Two days of high calories is not bad considering but still...I have regained control this week and have done much better. I have even planned my meals ahead so I would have the security of not having to think about it. I also been far more mindful at work about what I am putting in my mouth. I just keep refocusing whenever I get off track although the temptation is there.

One of the things that makes this all so stressful is that I live in a country where I do not always "get it". Social situations are sometimes hard and I want to retreat and this month has been chock full of social situations with no place to retreat to. I don't always know what to do or say and I get tired of feeling that way. If you can believe it a lot of people don't even find me funny here! :D The best I can do is just keep on trying...showing up...stumbling through. I have managed to find small group of ...friend type people..mostly with spouses who are not Norwegian who do get me and I am trying to cultivate those friendships where I can feel that it is not so tedious. Some of them even get my sense of humor!

SO I will make it. I just needed to rant a bit I think and tell you why I have been so absent and probably will be for a little while longer. Oh ...wait...I have just received a phone call from Patrick! Holy cow does HE sound stressed! Apparently the paper is there. Eating. The restaurant is completely packed and the people from one of the papers are having a seven course and asking a lot of questions. We have not been reviewed yet in any of the Oslo papers since Patrick took over. How nerve wracking!

Ever have one of those times when things could not get any crazier or stressful and yet somehow then they do?
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    Loved your blog! Am late to reading it...and I am sorry things are so hectic. I hope that things have slowed down a bit over the last week and you are smiling.

    I sometimes fall into what I like to call "trucker-mouth" on very rare occasions. So I completely understand where it can come from.

    Keep Breathing and Keep Smiling ...I believe it all falls into place. The stress is simply added excitement in the present for us to look back on later and laugh at ourselves or be proud of ourselves. Nothing but a new opportunity, I guess.

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    3389 days ago
    I'm so sorry I'm not there to help you with the kids, at least. And even if you DID resemble Gordon Ramsay (which I doubt), I've discovered that under the fire-breathing dragon he's a total cupcake.

    You'll be in Spain flaked out on the beach before you know it.

    (Oh, as for your fall pastry menu, everybody has apples in the fall. I'm guessing you could bang out a tarte tatin in your sleep.)

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    Comment edited on: 6/18/2011 10:19:09 AM
  • IONA72
    Just keep going girl, you are stronger than you think. emoticon
    3393 days ago
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    Of course not, I never feel stressed or bothered and control the world around me very well...NOT!!! I can't believe they don't find you funny--because I find you to be very funny

    About all one can say here is -- keep putting one foot in front of the other like you did in that crazy race recently. Picture new desserts as the steep ascent up a trail and people who irritate you like slogging in mud. Just keep moving forward like you are.

    So you over ate two days in row...big deal! You are not the kind of person to let that define your progress, so put on your big-girl panties and get going

    Hang in there friend, even if by a thread -- vacation is coming soon!
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    Comment edited on: 6/17/2011 3:25:58 PM
    (((HUGS))) Ronna. Life is hectic, more at times than others. Keep pressing on, girl! And thank God for Patrick.
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  • KELPIE57
    I salute you, and Patrick!
    3394 days ago
    I absolutely love your creativity and humor! I think you would make a very good author......among your many other talents!!

    Curmedgeon? I am going to have to get out my dictionary.

    I'm sure Patrick and the restaurant will get rave reviews in the paper.

    Lock the bathroom door, grab a glass of wine and take a long hot bath. emoticon
    3394 days ago
    I had to google `curmudgeon` - but yeah for learning new words. See, some good has come out of this already. Things will work out - how can they not?


    If something can be remedied
    Why worry about it?
    If something cannot be remedied
    Why worry about it?

    This too shall pass and France awaits!!!
    3394 days ago
    Sleeping is for wimps! You know you will get through it even if it is Gordon Ramsey style (remember when that behavior was actually considered the norm in kitchens). Sometimes just having a good rant will make you feel better - I hope your blog helped. I hope all went well with the review - keep us posted.
    3394 days ago
  • ERIN4771 are much prettier than gordon ramsey, so, even when you yell, i am sure you look nice doing it emoticon
    remember you can only control yourself, the more you try to control your surroundings and everyone in it, the harder it becomes, and more stress added....not worth it emoticon
    you and patrick are AMAZING at what you do, so i know everything will go smoothly the next few weeks, plus vacation is right around the corner, martinis and all emoticon
    if anyone is awesome at multi tasking it is you my friend, you can handle more than you think, and if that doesn't get you going, then there is always the martinis around the corner emoticon
    and hello!!! name drop all you want! bonjovi?! the latest we had at the gym was kris humphries and kim kardashian...ugh...give me the muppets any day of the week over those 2 fools....
    hang in there (insert kitten hanging from tree branch)
    3394 days ago
    Oh dear! That sounds like much more than any person can take!

    But... you've run Raskinnet :)))
    You have endurance! You're strong!
    You can get through anything you like, and you will get through this too!

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  • TERRYT55
    Oh my, Ronna.......I don't know what to address first.

    My daughter has had the same issues with her five year old and kindergarten the last few weeks.......something new almost everyday being crammed into the last days of the school year.

    It must be awful when a whole country goes and vacation and everyone needs to get everything done at once.

    Can't wait to hear how everything went for Patrick tonight.

    You are not a curmudgeon........just one woman in need of an assistant (oh, I wish I lived in Oslo), a country that understands her and a good night's sleep. Maybe a vacation too. emoticon

    You amaze me!

    3394 days ago
    OMG! BON JOVI!!!! SQUEEEE!! Why didn't you tell me?? I would have been over asap!! Maybe someday I will post a picture of me when I was 12 wearing a Bon Jovi t-shirt. ;) err.. maybe not!

    I'm having a tough time making new friends here. I'm not the most extroverted person to begin with, so...I am struggling. They don't get my humor either - I feel like I'm in a foreign country! I mean really - I got politely corrected because I asked for a shopping cart, they said, "You mean a buggy?" Uhh...ok....

    So sorry you are so stressed, dear. But you will soon be whisked away to two of the most fabulous cities in Europe! Just keep that carrot in front of you!

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    Comment edited on: 6/16/2011 11:12:46 PM
    I am so sorry to hear how hectic your life has been of recent.
    I can hope that this time passes quickly and you find you & your family on vacation - far removed from where you are right now.
    It does sound very stressful. Take care!

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    I can sympathize as well. We're at home dealing with the lousy internet connection, but we have the cafe torn apart and need to finish staining the trim before we open again on Saturday morning. Did I mention 2 out of 3 bakers already quit before we've opened? At least it's not us, they got better year round positions with benefits, but that pretty much leaves me again. Yipes! I didn't even get the chance to yell at them. ;)

    I'm sure Patrick's review will go well. They should visit more than once anyway, right? Very annoying that the UN needs special desserts. Gee whiz, eat what the proletariat eat!

    Your fall menu will be fine. Perhaps leave some room for inspirations that you may get on your vacation. Maybe "recycle" something from previous seasons so you can swap it out. The "red shirt" of desserts, so to speak.

    I'm glad you're finding a few expat friends. It's always nice to be able to kvetch about the natives to someone once in a while. They put hard-boiled eggs in their tomato soup and the split pea soup is yellow instead of green. I mean, really!

    Since we had a virtual cup of coffee earlier, I'll pour you a big glass of red now. I have these tankards that hold about half a bottle each ... perfect for sharing. ;)
    3394 days ago
    Holy cow! Okay, good thing I get your humor- lol! Seriously, this will pass, just not fast enough. You know my background, so you know I can sympathize with you.
    Kudos to you for getting through this with only a couple of days of crazy eating. Kudos to Patrick on the paper being there and him wowing them like he will!
    Focus on the vacation that is HOW MANY days away???
    3394 days ago
    Wow, this sounds worse that busy. My goodness. I am sorry to say I would likely not be taking my children to the birthday parties and such. I am just not sure if I could do it all. And to make it worse no assistant. You are human, barking at people (as I put it) happens.

    It actually sounds like your eating is good. I imagine even with more calories all the stress is increasing that calorie burn. I would give yourself a fairly significant break. Just eat healthy.

    Remember, no matter who understand you or gets your sense of humor that YOU ARE a GREAT person inside and out and a GREAT MOM and chef! You have another layer of stress over everyone else and you are pushing through. But... you are human. It's ok to be human and feel like life is a bummer and you don;t fit in all the time. YOU ALWAYS it in with us. Remember that when you are in these situations.

    Oh my goodness, more stress. But... hopefully good stress. I am hopeful that you get the wonderful review you deserve.

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    3394 days ago
    Wow, first I'm sending positive vibes Patrick's way.
    Secondly, I love your humor. You will get thru this difficult few weeks, although at times I'm sure difficult, then you can enjoy time with the family.
    Thirdly, the friendships will come. I know I would find it hard to form new bonds in a different country where I felt like I didn't quite fit.
    and finally, we love you Ronna. Push thru the hard times. You have done it before. Pack healthy snacks and try to get a good night's sleep.

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    3394 days ago
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