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Events that can knock you off your feet!

Monday, June 13, 2011

How is it when you think things in life are going along nicely and then along comes an "event" that threatens our "healthy life style".

I have a very strange/estranged relationship with my oldest daughter who is 34 years old. I can't explain the details of the history but lets just say that she has a huge hate on for me! Today I received a Face Book message from her saying "that she has a mass on her lung and has to have a lung biopsy done this week."

Please note all the correspondence was through Face Book messages. I offered to be at the hospital with her but she said no. Her Ex husband will be there with her. She did accept a meal. So I am preparing a meal that will be picked up by her ex husband so at least there will be an evening meal for him and their 3 sons and of course her if she is able to come home that day.

I'm trying so hard with the healthy life style and it would be so easy to take a dive into a bag of chocolate and not come up for days!!!!! I am hanging by my finger nails but I will not lose my "sobriety" (regarding food, meaning, the quality of refraining from excess etc.) for this event, no matter the out come!!!
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    This sounds like a very difficult situation. Best of luck to you and her.
    2708 days ago
    I know exactly what you mean about events that sweep you off your feet and threaten your healthy lifestyle. I am in recovery period from a series of just such events and it's tough to put my focus where it needs to be to make it happen.
    2830 days ago
    Good for you that you did not eat over this. You did the right thing in offering her help at least she knows your there for her. emoticon
    2841 days ago
    2842 days ago
    You have reached out to her and done all that she will let you for now maybe she will come around and let you help her. I am proud that you stuck to your guns and did not waver on staying healthy.
    2842 days ago
    emoticon I'm very sorry to hear about your daughter, but you made a gracious gesture to provide a meal and she accepted so that is a step in the right direction. I've found that it's not worth getting yourself over-stressed (gained 1/.2 my weight back and trying to get it back off!) Do what you can for your daughter, eat healthy so you are strong, and I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!

    2842 days ago
    Good Luck to you and her. I can understand how hard this food addicitve struggle can be when it come to emotions.
    2842 days ago
    What a difficult time for you! Do what you can, continue to love your daughter, and leave your door open without criticizing. That is all you can do and maybe, in time, she will feel your love and accept it and be willing to let go of that hate. I have a friend who has been through the same thing with one daughter who let go of the hatred and accepted the fact that her parents loved her and the world and her parents weeren't the problem. Now she is telling her sister to do the same. The sister just decided the past year to hate everyone and moved out of her home leaving 2 boys and her husband. My friend has a deep faith and is able to let go and let God. I don't know how to do that; so, can't give guidelines there, but if youcan do that it has worked for Judy! Prayers for your daughter and for you and for relationship healing.
    2842 days ago
    i sure hope all goes well for her, life can throw us a curb ball , just know we can't change the situation , we just have to believe things will work out for the best.
    don't stress yourself out, i know that isn't easy when you're faced with news like this.
    be strong, i'm sending prayers to you and your family.
    2842 days ago
    Stay healthy for you and for her. It is amazing what a crisis can do to bring a family back together. Keep offering your help, love and support. This time it may only be a meal but it could be the start of something more so it will be important to keep the door open. If nothing else, at least you will be able to say you tried.

    Best wishes.
    2842 days ago
    Keep up the great work. Most of us find that the first thing we do when things hit hard is to curl up in a ball and eat. Thats how we got to where we are at the moment. I know that you can beat it and come out of it feeling good about yourself. Prayers for your daughter.. take care of yourself.. emoticon
    2842 days ago
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