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The end is the means

Sunday, June 12, 2011

My journey to weight loss is part of a larger journey to happiness, and as my mom likes to say, the end is the means. By that, she means that the process of attaining a goal is an inextricable part of the end result.

Now, I know that disgust can be a powerful motivator, but for me, real and lasting change has always come from positivity. I find moving towards what really makes me happy is a lot easier than moving away from what makes me unhappy. Maybe other people are motivated differently; this is what trial and error has shown works for me.

So to that end, I'm trying to do things to up my happiness quotient each day. I listen to a lot more music, and it helps make even washing the dishes into a fun-filled dance. I've been taking those hot baths that I always meant to take but never quite got around to, with epsom salts, scented candles and magazines! I take the time to really enjoy my food, even if it's the same breakfast I usually eat.

And most importantly, I'm reaching out to my friends and making plans to do fun activities. This has become especially important since I started living alone again.

Yesterday, I met with three buddies for a day of making cards. We bring magazines, glitter, scissors, paper and glue, and we make collage cards and postcards. We've done it about four or five times now, and the best part is that we've incorporated a super-healthy potluck lunch into it.

My friends all have allergies or special dietary needs, so we eat these delicious, wheat-free, non-dairy, sugar-free, unprocessed meals. And even though we don't plan it in advance, we always have a terrifically balanced meal! Yesterday there was green salad, a savoury lentil salad, roast chicken breast with sundried tomatoes, and these crispy rice patties that were a revelation. And we had a fruit salad with homemade berry sorbet for dessert! It was so yummy, and it was crazy healthy too!!!

And now I have some beautiful (and some hilarious) homemade cards I can send to loved ones. I have two new delicious recipes that I will incorporate into my diet. And most importantly, I have great memories of unstructured time spent with old friends, and we have deepened our bond by sharing our real selves with each other.

All in all, a beautiful day. Another step on my journey to happiness. And you see, the step on the journey to happiness was itself happiness. The end really is the means.

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  • HEATHER1969
    Surround yourself with positives.... push the negs out! That is so the way to go! Put it out to the universe what you want out of life and watch all the good stuff start rolling in!

    Keep on Sparkin it up! emoticon
    3343 days ago
    I think that relying too much on negativity leaves one good at being negative. That's sure not what I want as I get healthier and happier with my physical shape. I want to be happy and positive. The great thing is the better I do at eating fantastic, delicious and super healthy foods and actually getting some exercise, the happier and more positive I feel! Keep on heading in the right direction and enjoy the journey along the way.
    3344 days ago
  • no profile photo CD10305427
    Wonderful Blog Post! Enjoyed reading it. Makes you smile and say : "Yes, that's the way!"
    3345 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/12/2011 11:53:58 PM
    Good blog! emoticon
    3345 days ago
    You are so right about the step on the journey to happiness is happiness itself. It is easy to get bogged down in negative thinking, and think that is necessarily where we are stuck, but we can create our own emotional outlook. It sounds like you and your friends do a wonderful job of this, and great that you can get together and 'glitter' up your day.


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