25,000-29,999 SparkPoints 26,588

Am I responsible for others' failure?

Wednesday, June 01, 2011

Let's cut to the chase. I haven't checked my sparkmail in over 2 years (almost 3). The main reason was because of the multiple daily emails I would get from my spark groups...I wouldn't call them "junk mail" per se, but they were of no interest to me. So I quit checking my mail and let the messages pile up. Today, I decided to sort through my mail and clean out my inbox, and I stumbled across 20ish personal emails from spark members asking for advice or encouragement. I, not only felt like an awful person for allowing these people to think I was ignoring them, but also feel partially responsible for those who last updated their sparkpages 768 days ago. People nominated me a motivator and came to me for advice, and I completely ignored their messages (not on purpose). Maybe if I had responded, they would have stuck with it. Maybe I could have said the right thing or lit that fire inside of them to keep them on the path toward a healthful lifestyle. At the end of the day, I know it is their own personal decision as to whether or not to stick with the program, but I still feel like I let people down.

However, I like to think that I have motivated or inspired at least one person to continue on the path toward their fitness and/or weight loss goals. If I have accomplished that, I have succeeded emoticon
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Lol! I wouldn't beat myself up if I were you the only failure your responsible for is your own. If they didn't keep trudging they were not ready to change their selves. If they were serious they would have gone to someone else for advice. When I feel I have lapsed and failed I get my motivation by looking at my sparkfriends before and after pics and that helps me get back in the game. The main reason being is because I want to look great as well and I want the right to finally be able to say "I met my goal weight!" I HAVE NOT YET BEEN ABLE TO GET ENOUGH MOTIVATION TO LOOSE THAT LAST 10-15LBS THOUGH. Thats my fault I blame me because at the end of the day you or no one else is making or allowing me to over eat of fill up on empty calories I am and I decide if I'm gonna work out or not no one else.

    emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2359 days ago
  • ERIN4771
    dude...life happens, and sometimes we all need the break from spark....as far as letting others down, um, that's a big fat no.....first and foremost we need to take care of ourselves, and you did that, so no apology is needed...glad to see you back though emoticon
    2575 days ago
    Oh, Kayla-- I can't imagine all the spark mail you must get!! Of course it isn't your fault.

    You have motivated ME constantly, for years now. I only came back to spark the first time JUST to find you. Please remember that!! You've done absolutely great with your weight loss and really, some people just fall off the wagon, that's it, and nothing you could have said would have stopped it!

    You're such an inspiration- don't ever forget that! I truly, honestly and legitimately feel like I could NOT have done this (over and over) without you!!

    emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2576 days ago
  • MILLE7
    No, you are not responsible for anyone's failure. Who knows -- maybe the people that haven't updated for a long time just got tired of interacting with the website and got a personal trainer, joined a gym or found other local support.
    2577 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.

More Blogs by KDR001