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Re-evaluating the people in my life.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Ever since I was little, I have always wanted others to be happy. I'm the type of person who likes peace and happiness to surround me. I don't like a lot of fighting and confrontation between people that I love. Since this is the type of person that I am, its hard for me to let go of unhealthy relationships and friendships. I'd rather keep people in my life who are not beneficial to me than to tell them how i really feel and cut them off completely.

I'm starting to realize that the circe of friends that i have been with since middle and high school are not beneficial to me at all. Last Sunday was my college graduation. the monday after that, I started to really evaluate my life and I realized my "friends" are not doing anything with their lives. If we started school at the same time and you are still a freshman, clearly you don't take your future or your money very seriously. All these people do is work at dead end jobs, smoke weed, and gossip about each other behind their backs.

So its time to let go.... Let go of the dead weight of these "friends." Let go of anything and anyone that is damaging to me and my success. It feels good to say these things. I dont feel any animosity or anger toward these people. I feel like everyone enters your life for a reason, a season or a life time. Take everything as a lesson learned and move on.
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  • NAPPILICIOUS
    It great that you are thinking of yourself, and doing what's good for you. Maybe now that you are ignoring them they would get a clue, and have a transformation of their own. You'll see your real friends stick around,and try to change with you.
    2732 days ago
  • SECURITYGIRL82
    I know exactly what you are going through, since I am going through the same thing! Good for you!!! Also have to agree with Bigandy319! Dropped Facebook and I couldn't feel anymore better about it :) Some people of the past should just stay there!!!
    2732 days ago
  • SPARKLE1908
    Good for you! Getting rid of toxic people can be very beneficial in the long run...I totally understand your view!

    Don't look back!
    2732 days ago
  • INTHELOOP
    I cleaned the "friend house" a few times in my life- and you are exactly right you want people in your life that enrich and challenge you.
    I am stll friends with some of the "old" friends - but they no longer hold a power position in my life that dictates how I feel about myself or hold me back from progress towards my goals.

    You might even look back someday and find that you challenged them to grow...All the right moves girl!!

    Have a great week!!
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    2732 days ago
  • BIGANDY319
    I completely agree with everything you say. I am struggling with the exact issue on how to drop those friends that you don't need. I had to get rid of my Facebook to get away from their drama. The funny thing is are those friends that I didn't need dictated through their Facebook who their real friends are. So getting rid of Facebook equaled dropping the dead weight friends and the ones that mattered made the effort to call or text me.
    2732 days ago
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