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Friday 13th- the day our lives changed

Monday, May 23, 2011

My blog today is not a cheery one so please be warned!!

My youngest daughter (25) went into hospital on Friday 13th May after 6 months of being told there was nothing wrong with her apart from a tummy bug (this was the latest diagnosis!) She was even told it was post natal depression (her baby is 7 months old)

Less than 4 hours after admission she was told that there was a 99% chance it was cancer, on Sunday she was diagnosed with stage 4 hodgkins lymphoma, she has two children under 2

Now a lot of us would cry (rightly so!), scream, wonder how long we have left, all of the emotions that hit us like a high speed train.

After the shock on Friday where she said she didn't think she'd see her son's 2nd birthday in 3 weeks time she asked the doctor long term questions! He said take it a day at a time, she said 'no, I'm planning long term not just tomorrow'.

On Sunday she said to me 'it doesn't matter if I miss his birthday this year mum, I'll have plenty more with him', this almost broke my heart in 2. She doesn't want me crying, she even phoned me to tell me to tell her sister to stop crying and saying she loves her as she's not dying! We tell each other every day that we love each other (all 3 of us), we always have.

She now faces 24 weeks of chemo and is most worried about how her eldest child K will feel about seeing his mother without hair, we plan on buying the best wig possible!

The cancer specialist told her she was the bravest person he had met- she said 'will crying cure my cancer? No, so why waste my energy on tears that do nothing, I have a battle on my hands that I intend to win'

She still has the most amazing sense of humour and is still the same stubborn, headstrong girl she's always been. What makes this harder is she lives in Ireland and the rest of us live on the mainland making visits difficult. I asked her who she wants me to tell, her response- no one who hasn't spoken to me since I moved 4 years ago, I don't need their pity mum, I need positive people who will stay strong for me

Some people have asked her if she will sue the doctor who misdiagnosed- her response was- I'm not wasting energy on that, they will never make the same mistake again so another family will be saved the pain I am going through

She can't have much pain relief as the cancer is also in her liver (lymph nodes) so she is doing most of this without pain relief. She laughed with the irony of the 1st meal she ate in 8 weeks was the night before chemo which will make her sick!

She was a wild child in her teens but turned her life completely around, even getting away from her violent partner, she told her sister ' I got away from him, the physical and mental abuse only for cancer to have a go'.

She went on facebook and stated that she went into hospital with what she thought was an upset stomach only to be told she has stage 4 hodgkins, she warned others not to take the first diagnosis if the doctor showed disinterest

Now my goal is to be the fittest possible to help her with the children and her battle, if she can beat cancer, I can beat the fat!!

My daughter says that she has to do the physical side of the battle alone but the emotional side with the family, I'm going to ensure that I'll be there for every battle with her

She is the true inspiration to me, the bravest girl I could ever know. My fighter, my winner.

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  • KELLIB44
    I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter and will keep all of your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care, Kelli
    2579 days ago
    Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family. What a courageous daughter you have. You had a hand in helping her become that way. It sounds like your whole family has a lot to go through, but it also sounds like you are all in our thoughts and prayers.
    2582 days ago
    You must have done a great job raising a woman like that. Congrats!!
    2582 days ago
    God Bless you and your family during this difficult time. Your duaghter is an inspiration to me.
    2582 days ago
    Wow what an amazing and positive person your daughter is. I hope her chemo goes as well as possible for her. emoticon
    2582 days ago
    What an amazing daughter you have raised. My healing thoughts go out to you and your family during this difficult time.
    2582 days ago
  • BD3269PM
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your daughter's good strong positive attitude will help her during this time. She has a wonderful loving family to stand by her. emoticon
    2582 days ago
    You are a brave family - I do hope your daughter pulls through. emoticon
    2582 days ago
  • MRE1956
    Oh, like this certainly puts my situations in a different perspective....I can't even begin to imagine what your family is going through right now......please know that your family will be in my best thoughts....


    2582 days ago
    ONLY GOD KNOWS WHAT IS AHEAD BUT NOTHING CAN HAPPEN THAT DOESN'T PASS THRU HIS HANDS ! HE IS IN THE MIRACLE BUSINESS DON'T GIVE UP ! BE THERE FOR HER AND KEEP HER LIFE AS UPBEAT AS POSSIBLE LET HER ENJOY TODAY . I AM LIVING WITH ALL MY ARTERIES OVER 80% BLOCKED AND I WILL BE 60 IN JULY AND DOCTORS TOLD ME WHEN I WAS 21 THAT I HAD OUTLIVED THE DISEASE BY YEARS SO GOD IS IN CONTROL! I got a team called GOD ANSWERS PRAYER and i would love for you to join it and post under discussions what you post here . The team prayers daily for each other . Do you and her believe in God ? My prayers are with you and if you just need to talk please send me a sparkmail i am here daily !
    2582 days ago
  • -POOKIE-
    Oh goodness, Im so sorry. Your family will be in my thoughts.
    2582 days ago
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  • GALSAL59
    Blessings for your family. What a truly admirable Woman!

    2582 days ago
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